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Dear Dish-It, My Friend Calls Me a Poser


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Dear Dish-It,

My friend is calling me a poser. She is getting into Good Charlotte, and all of that, and all of a sudden wants to become a rocker. I try to be supportive but she gets mad and calls me a poser. I told her I didn't like to be labeled and that I wasn't that insignificant. She is my best friend and I have these nightmares that we stop being friends and she gets into drugs and all that. I might be overreacting but I am worried. Her mother is too - she is sending her to a psychiatrist. I need to mend my friendship - can I have some advice?
lyn


Dear lyn,

So let me get this straight - your friend is suddenly a giant Good Charlotte fan, has decided she's a rocker but she's callin' you a poser? That's not cool. I think you need to let your friend know that you're cool with whatever music she chooses to listen to and that she should be supportive of you, too. Although I doubt your BFF's new musical preference will lead her down a path of destruction, you should speak up if you're concerned with how she's been acting or treating you. There's no reason the two of you cannot continue being friends but you're going to need to chill a bit with your fears. And, she's going to need to stop calling you names. If you two really are best buds, different tastes in music shouldn't affect that! Good Luck.


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