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Dear Dish-It, My Friend Is a Big Jerk Sometimes


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

I have a friend who I think is a real big jerk at times. He says he does all this stuff for everybody else, but that nobody does anything for him. He only helps half the time. For example, he was going to set me up with this girl I liked for three years, but a couple of months later, he asked her out himself. I am kinda too forgiving so I try to let these things go. Should I still be friends with him?
King


Dear King,

That's not cool. Your friend is no friend to you. So why should you be his friend? Ask yourself this: does he usually act like a friend, or is it always one-sided? If you're not sure, make a list. In one column, write down why you like him and how he has shown his friendship to you. In another column, write down what he's done in the past that wasn't very nice or supportive, and anything else that just plain pissed you off. If column one is longer than column two, then he's your bud and maybe this girl issue was just a major moment of selfishness (we all have them). If column two is longer than column one - and this girl is just one example of his "It's all about me" complex - then lose him fast. You may decide that he's a keeper even if column two is longer than column one. It's your choice, but you'll have to live with it, which means you'll have to learn to let his crappy moments roll off your back.


I am in that situation too, but I am still friends with her because we have been friends too long to break it up... so my advice to you if you want to break your friendship is go ahead... but ask yourself this question: how long have you been friends for a girl to come between you?
Username: Anonymous


What's up, King? Your friend is your friend no matter what so my advice is you forgive him because you shouldn't let nobody (girl/boy) come between yall's friendship.
Username: Anonymous


I totally agree. You can't be friends with someone who isn't nice. If you are gonna stay friends with him, you HAVE to talk to him. Explain how you feel and he should back off. If he doesn't, he isn't worth your time.
Username: Anonymous


NO WAY! If your friend is treating you - and all your other friends - like dirt, then what kind of friend is that? Not a good one, at the very LEAST. All you have to do to completely wash this loser from your life is to say, "Dude, if you're not nicer to me + everyone else, I'm gone. Choose: it's the way you're headed now without me, or a different way with me." He'll get the message.
Username: Anonymous


Dude, get that girl back.
Username: Anonymous


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