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Dear Dish-It: My Friend Is Acting Jealous

Dear Dish-It,

I’ve had a really good friend in my life for the past two years. I value and appreciate her so much. My mom even says she’s her third daughter. But ever since I started hanging out with a new girl in my class my old friend has been acting jealous. I tried talking to her about it, but she yelled at me and said she hates my new friend. I don’t think she has any right to tell me who to hang out with but I don’t want to lose her as a friend. How do I make this better?

HNH


Dear HNH,


Dealing with a jealous friend isn't easy. It can be downright frustrating. Find out how to make the best of the situation, be fair to yourself and your friend, and, if possible, preserve the friendship. It can be done!


If you’re sure the jealousy is coming from the fact that you’ve started to become close to another girl, try to be empathetic: Imagine you're your friend or how you'd feel in the same situation.


Try not to say or do things that will make your friend feel frustrated. This will only fan the flames of the jealousy.


It’s perfectly OK to show that you're happy about your new friendship and your life in general, but be sure to show interest and excitement about things going on in your friend's life, too.


Sometimes jealousy is mixed with a lot of anger. If your efforts to listen to your friend and encourage her aren't working, give her some time to cool off. She may need to work out their feelings alone or with someone who's not the object of her jealousy.


Recruit some extra support for yourself, too: Another friend or a relative may be able to help you sort out your feelings about being the object of your friend's jealousy. A lot of people feel bad about making someone else jealous, so be sure to remind yourself why you're a good person, too!


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    Error44
    Go for him, make a nice situation to understand what he feels about you, if he loves you and you are sure about him so go for him and dont lose him . Though I think such a friendship for you is too soon and it will be broken but it is worth trying .Soory, if I speak frankly , it is just my opinion nothing more.
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    Kirsteeeeen
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    Isabellax
    @nrfvltmrdftw06  :p :p
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    nrfrvltmrdftw06
     @isabellax same
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    Ashleexo posted in Family Issues:
    "Sophieex_" wrote:I'm not afraid of either of my parents. But if I could choose, my mom. I'm also not afraid of either of my parents at anytime.  But when I was 13 and under and in trouble, it would be my dad.
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