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Dear Dish-It: I Want Adventure

Dear Dish-It,

My life is so boring; I wish I could escape on an exciting, thrilling adventure. I daydream about being one of the characters in the cartoons I watch – falling in love while avoiding all sorts of danger. I feel like I'm all chained up, waiting to break free. My worst fear is that my whole life will be about school or work. There must be more to life, and I don’t think I can live without adventure. I’d learn so much about myself. I know I’m smart, but I feel like I need to learn more, not just about me, but about everything around me. I wish the world I create for myself inside my head was physically real – a perfect, adventurous, love-filled world. How could I do something to learn more about me, and everything else?


true2myself


Dear true2myself,


You sound like a real dreamer – a girl after my own heart! I’m afraid what I have to say in response to your question isn’t going to make you feel a lot better, but I guess you’ll just have to trust me on this one.


You’re still quite young, and you have your whole life ahead of you. And, if adventure is what you want, then I guarantee it is what you will get! Just keep dreaming and reading and writing about the things you would like to do with your life. Keep your ideas alive in your mind and you never know, they may just come true!


I don’t know how old you are, but I’m guessing you’re still in school and living with your parents. Take a deep breath and accept the fact that you are where you are in your life, and that part of being a kid is going to school so you can fill your head with knowledge and letting your parents take care of you so you can concentrate on keeping your grades up, instead of worrying about finding something to eat or somewhere to sleep.


Once you have grown up and have gained your independence, you’ll absolutely be able to have the adventures you dream about while you’re a kid. If traveling around the world and meeting people from different cultures is what you want to do, then I’m pretty sure you will do everything in your power to make it happen.


Also, I’m here to tell you that you’re right. Meeting new people and seeing new places with your own two eyes definitely help you to learn more about yourself – but so does doing what you’re doing at this very moment. Every experience you have in life, no matter how boring you may think it is, is teaching you valuable lessons about yourself and your amazing potential to do the things you want to do and make a real difference in the world.


So don’t be afraid to chase your dreams – but don’t be afraid to have a little patience and wait for them to happen naturally, and at the right time, either.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.


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bookwormlestrange
I don't have ADHD, but I know plenty about it. One of my friends has ADHD and Tourette's, and the teachers were always turds about it. Anyway, i think that a good way to deal with ADHD acting up is either changing medication or trying to eat foods or drinks with caffeine. I'm not sure if it works for you, but a lot of people with ADHD have seen significant improvements after putting caffeine in their systems. If your friends are acting like turds, you need better friends. I hope my advice helps.
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SmartSunnyShadow
I have one so annoying sister, that it feels like I have 200 of them, oh my god. She's pounding on the door right now, HELP! 
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SmartSunnyShadow
Dad, obviously. I can't even explain what he does to me!
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SmartSunnyShadow
Well, if they are your BFFs, they shouldn't be teasing you to make you feel bad. Me, and my BFFs tease each other all the time playfully, but I understand that this is different, and if it's making you feel bad it isn't playful at all.   Maybe your eldest friend is having some trouble with family issues, bad grades, body changes, etc. It's okay to be angry, so maybe you should leave her space for a few days, and see if it turns better. If it isn't, then try to first make her calm down. Then, make her talk to you about why she is so angry and ask if you can try to help. If nothing turns out better, tell her that you feel uncomfortable, and you want her to talk to you.  For your 3rd eldest friend, support her as much as possible, and stand up for her in this terrible situation. If you are all BFFs, then you should all be very close and comfortable around each other, and the fight shouldn't last long. If not, they are not your real friends, and you have to go on without them. I have tons of advice on how to make new friends, so just ask me if you want to know. Your 2nd eldest friend seems to be the main problem.  First of all, tell her to stop, and say how you don't like her bullying you. You must say what she is doing wrong, and how it makes you feel. If she doesn't care, tell her you're serious, and you hate what she is doing to you. If it continues, ignore what trash she is saying, and just simply walk away. Focus on other things that will help make you feel better. Remember, all she is is a person, and it's up to you to act appropriately.  Stay positive, and calm. Focus on other things, and if she continues, tell her that you can all be friends and you miss her. Go get another friend to stand up with you, and tell her that you will report to an adult if she won't stop. She may be your friend, but she deserves it. I told on my BFF when she was mean, so it's all okay now.  If all else fails, get a trusted adult, and hang out with nicer friends. Your other friends will learn from their mistakes. If not, warn them, and give them a sincere kindness note of how you miss being friends. Then, also give one to the bully.
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AnnaOfExquizurd
Yeah, @CyclonicBass the best option really is to find a girl with a quirky personality. Become friends with her. Possibly, over time, she'll grow close to you and accept a request to be with you. Hope it goes well!
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