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Dear Dish-It, My Parents Are Getting Divorced

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Dear Dish-It,

I really need your help. My parents are getting a divorce and I cannot deal! I cry all day and night. I scream and plug my ears when they try to talk with me. I think my dad likes a girl named Tonya and I hate her guts for it. She doesn't like my dad, but I still hate her. I am really mean to her five kids who were my friends before all of this. My mom is moving out and I have to live with my dad because my mom is sick and can't take care of my brother and me. She just had surgery. I am 11, and my brother is 14. I don't want this to happen. I pray every night that it won't but god hates me and won't fix it.


When my dad was 17 he got in a drunk-driving car accident. The guy driving the car was drunk and hit a tree. My uncle was also in the car and was killed. My father has no legs and is in a wheelchair. We hardly have any money. I really need help. I told my best friend, but she can't really help because her 'rents are still together. My mom isn't gone yet, but is starting to pack. My brother doesn't care that they are splitting. My dad called my school's guidance counselor and made me go once. I didn't say a word. I hate the guidance counselor. I hate all counselors. My parents want me to go to one but I am NOT going. They CAN'T make me. THEY CANNOT SPLIT UP! Please, please, please help me! Thanks.
Kailin


Dear Kailin,

I'm sorry to hear about your 'rents splitting up - that's really got to be one of the toughest things to deal with when you're growing up. But you will get through it. Right now, your whole world has been turned upside down and it's going to take a while to adjust to your new way of life. As things settle down though, you'll find that your parents both still love you very much and only want what's best for you. Instead of constantly having to deal with your 'rents screaming at each other, you're going to get real, quality time with both your mom and dad. It's understandable that you'd be upset about your dad showing an interest in another woman, but again, as time goes by these things do get easier. While you may hate counselors, it's a good idea to talk to someone, other than your parents, about what you are going through. You'll be surprised how helpful just talking about stuff is. Give it time. It's going to take a while to adjust - but things will get better! Good Luck.


Dear Kalilin

I know what you are going through. I went through that when I was only 10. Now both of my parents are out of my life and I live with my aunt. Well, if you don't feel comfortable with your dad I say you should ask one of your family members that you trust if you could live with them.

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    CuteMoo2

    CuteMoo2 wrote:

    sad when parents divorce :( know how it is :(
    commented: Sat Feb 01, 2014

    sweetjaja21

    sweetjaja21 wrote:

    my parents are getting divorced. what are you gonna do? i can't handle it and only like...
    commented: Sun Oct 21, 2012

    sorrcermickey

    sorrcermickey wrote:

    wish my dad was still here with me he got shot when i was 3-4 and i miss him alot. :sad
    commented: Thu Oct 11, 2012

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