Dear Dish-It, I Told My Friends I Hated Him
Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".
Ok. My boyfriend broke up with me and then we didn't talk for like 4 months. Well I knew he still liked me and I did too (but I told my friends I hated him because they have big mouths and if I told them I still liked him, they would have told him.) Anyway he asked me out and I said yes. Now my friends keep telling him that I said I hated him. Now he will not even talk to me. What do I do!!!
Sorry, girl... but you dissed your X out of pride. I understand that you were tryin' to look strong in front of your girls, but you did it at his expense. There's a lot to be said to this question. First, pride will get us in trouble ALL the time. Nothin' wrecks friendships and relationships faster than foolish pride... Usually it prevents us from statin' the truth. In this case, your pride has come back and bitten you in the butt. Besides, if these girls are your friends, they should be there for you and understand how you were really feeling when your X gave you the boot.
And speakin' of friends, they don't sound too friendly to me. What's it their biz goin' and tellin' your boy what you said. I'm not feelin' the love there! As for your boy - he's not exactly innocent. Why'd he break it off in the first place? Maybe, like you, he crumbled under the pressure his friends put on him. So where are we at? From where I sit, you all look a little bad. The big Q here is: can you make nice with your boy? I think so. Talk to him, tell him your feelings were hurt when he broke it off with you. Apologize and tell him there's nothin' further from the truth. Maybe even ask him why he broke it off in the first place? See where it goes from there. Oh yeah, I wouldn't be hangin' with your girls anymore cuz they don't sound very supportive.
I need help. This guy likes me because he told me so, but I think a friend likes him too. And I sorta like him too. My friend was one of his old crushes. What should I do? Should I try to get together with him? I wouldn't want to lose a friend though. Me and this friend don't see each other anymore. We go to different schools so we aren't as close now. Please tell me what I should do!!!!!
When you say your friend was one of his old crushes, do you mean he had a crush on her? Cuz if that's what you're sayin'... who cares? That was then, this is now. He likes you and you like him... and your friend (who you're not too tight with now that she's schoolin' elsewhere) has no legit claim over this boy. If your boy had been with your friend before, it would be totally different. But he wasn't, so I think you're free to pursue him. What are you waiting for? And one more thing - nice of ya to be thinking of everyone's feelings.
I really have this big crush on this boy at my school, we are both in the 8th grade, same school. Well anyway, this boy is very, very, fine - like the finest boy in 8th grade. He's my type of boy. I think he's the perfect boyfriend for me. My friends, they tell me that he likes me, that he's always staring at me. They also told me that he wanted 2 go with me. He is very fine, brown eyes, thick brown hair and curly, a body like POW!!! He is a true thug, just the way I like him.
He's always ballin', never broke, and I truly like him very much. He's the only boy that makes me truly think he's One In A Million, cuz his smile and his style is so fly, I can't deny. I got a crush on him that's truly indeed. I'm diggin' him, and he really makes me believe that I wanna share my world with him. The way we stare at each other, I think that he really thinks that I'm the one for him. We flirt and play around with each other... all that I want is for me and him...
Ooooh girl, you got it bad. You're jonesing for ya fella big time. So he's fly and he's POW!!! but you didn't finish your letter. What I wanna know is what's goin' on? Are you together, or are you jonesin' from across the playground? Holla back and let me know. And girl, your letter was like poetry, a pure Ms. Hill-Hip-Hop story of love. If you haven't already, you go get the boy!
So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .