Dear Dish-It: Everyone Hates My Crush
I think I’m in love with this guy but my parents hate him and my best friends hate him, too. I don’t even know if he likes me.
Unfortunately, I think if all your close friends and your family have a low or bad opinion about this guy, then he’s probably bad news. Remember, your best friends, your mom and your dad are the ones who care about you, worry about you, love you and have your best interests in mind. In other words, they all want what’s best for you. I think you should take their opinions and warnings about your crush seriously – think about it: is he really such a great guy? Is he really that good for you? Could you do better? And, finally, wouldn’t you be happier going out with a guy that the people closest to you liked?
The other thing is, we often try to rebel or go against what other people tell us to do. Maybe your only reason for liking this guy is that everyone around you is telling you he’s bad news. If everyone was supportive of your choice and liked your crush, would he be as appealing to you? I have a feeling that what you might have is lust not love – lust for something that’s dangerous or forbidden, that everyone who is important to you is telling you not to touch with a 10-foot pole.
If you really think your BFFs and parents are wrong about your crush, maybe you should try to talking to them about it. Maybe you could even arrange to have this guy meet your parents, so they can see he’s actually not such a bad person. As for your friends, they might be jealous or might not see that he’s a good person. Try doing things all together – your friends and your crush – so they can spend more time with him and get to know him better. Maybe then their opinion will change.
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