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Dear Dish-It, I'm in Love With a Goth


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Dear Dish-It,

Hey, I have so much to say and nobody will listen. I like a gothic guy but I'm a prep and I know it's really rude not to want any one to know but I worked hard on my rep. I try to talk to my parents but they don't agree with his rebellious ways! What can I do? I don't even know if he likes me. I'm scared of putting myself out there, just to get knocked off.
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Dear ocean_eyes,

I have to admit that I feel pretty bad for the guy you are crushing on. You say you really like him but you're embarrassed to tell anyone cuz you're afraid of ruining your reputation. How do you think that would make him feel? Nobody wants to be someone else's dirty little secret. Either you like this boy or you don't. Chances are you like him because he's a bit rebellious and goth - so why would you be embarrassed to let peeps know that? If your friends are going to judge you because of who you choose to date, then they're probably not worth having as friends. Talk to this guy if you are interested - but don't expect him to carry on some secret relationship behind closed doors so that you can continue to be popular and rebellious all at the same time.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    hugebear
    hugebear posted in Family Issues:
    You doesnt have to come out to your family until your ready and until they is ready too.  If you blurt it out it could be the shock.  You says that you think your Mums side of the family will be more supportive.  Has you got an Aunty or Uncle what you could discuss this with?  An adult member of your family what is most likely supportive  could probably give the best advises on how to tell your family and when and how and prepares you for how they will react. Good luck mate and takes your time :angel
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    Mrawsomegamer
    I think my mothers side of the family would be fine with it. It's my dad's side I'm most concerned about. My dad says some dreadfully terrible remarks about homosexual people. I think I'm not gunna tell him at all. Ever...  Either way. Thanks for the advice!
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    Kirsteeeeen
    If you don't think that you'll be in a safe situation (for example, your parents try to kick you out, or hurt you physically or emotionally) than you should definitely wait to tell them. I think you'll know when the time is right. We can't tell you how they'll react, but I bet you can sort of figure it out from how they feel and act about these topics.  Remember, you are not obligated to tell anybody at all. It's personal. Wait until you're for sure ready to tell them. And when you do, tell them the way in which it's easiest. Get your point across, offer resources, reassurance, and give them time. 
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    Mrawsomegamer
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    Kirsteeeeen
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