Dear Dish-It: He Still Hasn't Called

It's His Turn To Call

Dear Dish-It,

I had a friend who liked me. I didn't know until l he gave me a beautiful green crystal. I started liking him. We got together. I had to dump him because I wasn't ready for a relationship and neither was he. But I realized I really love him so I called him but he was busy so we couldn't talk long. I want to get in touch with him but I am nervous to call again. What do I do? He has my number but he hasn't called.

nini98

Dear nini98,

If I were you, I’d just try to be patient and wait. You’ve already reached out to him once – which was the right thing to do – but now it is up to him to call you back. Trust me, if he wants to speak to you – about anything – he will contact you.

If you do decide to try calling or contacting him again, you are actually risking a lot more than it may seem. While I know letting him know that your feelings about him have changed and that you still feel really strongly about him and want to talk about possibly trying your relationship again, the last thing you want to do is seem too eager. Trust me, guys don’t respond well to neediness and too many overwhelming emotions. It’s not that us girls aren’t allowed to be emotional or whatever else we happen to be, but there is a proper way to conduct yourself around other people. Exposing your weaknesses is not a good idea.

So try to be patient, and one of two things will happen. He’ll either contact you and at that point the two of you can discuss where your relationship is headed, or he won’t and you’ll meet someone new. Either way, you win!

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