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Dear Dish-It : Quick Advice

Dear Dish-It!

Dish-it gets so many questions, she doesn’t always have time to answer them all right away! Here are some quickie answers for some of the shorter questions she’s received.


I like a boy but he’s got a girlfriend. What do I do? He likes me but he likes her, too! – s8tergirl13_09


Nothing. You can’t go after a guy – no matter how much you like him or he likes you – if he has a girlfriend. Trust me, if you do anything, like ask him to break up with her for you, he’ll eventually blame you for it and you won’t be able to have a relationship with him. Sit back, say nothing and wait to see what happens. As long as he has a girlfriend, you can’t be with him and he can’t be with you.


There’s this guy I really like but he has a girlfriend. How should I tell him – by e-mail – that I like him? I don’t want his girlfriend to find out, but I think he already knows I like him but hasn’t said anything. – cuty_me


Just like my advice to the user above, you can’t and shouldn’t do anything about this situation. In fact, if you can’t just be friends with this guy you need to stop e-mailing and/or communicating with him altogether. It’s not fair to his girlfriend, it’s not fair to him and it’s not fair to you. Plus, if he knows you like him and he hasn’t said anything, that means he doesn’t want to bring the issue out into the open for whatever reason. You need to respect that and keep your distance from guys who have girlfriends in the future!


I liked this boy and he asked me out. I said no but I think I made a mistake. What do I do? – Almisha123


This one’s easy. Ask him out yourself! It’s your turn to make a move anyway – he already tried! But be prepared for him to say no. After all, you turned him down first and he may be feeling bad about it.


I’m having boyfriend problems. He won’t call or text me in homeroom, he never comes over and he didn’t come to my parties. We’ve been dating for three years – what should I do? – dogs4ever532


Have these problems just started happening? Did he used to do all those things you say he doesn’t do now? Your options are to talk to him about it or to let him go. Remember, it’s impossible to make anyone change for you – no matter how many talks you have with them. Change happens when you want to change – not when someone tells you to. So it may just be that your relationship is coming to an end, which isn’t the end of the world. All it means is that you now have a chance to go out and find someone who will do all the things you say you want or expect a boyfriend to do for you.


I have a crush on this boy and I don’t know if he knows. What should I do? – im_just_me_09


You have two options: you can tell him how you feel or you can sit back and wait to see what happens. There isn’t a right or wrong here. Do what you feel more comfortable with. I really believe that if it’s meant to be it will happen, so you don’t really need to do anything but have some patience. Or read Read Dish-It’s article on How To Ask Someone Out.


If you've got a burning question, need some love advice or find yourself thinking about things like sex, depression, self-esteem, boyfriends, girlfriends, best friends, bullying or peer pressure, don't hesitate to Dish-It here. Send your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com. And if you hang out in the chat rooms with other Kidzworld members who know you by your username, just send in your secret question using a different nickname if you want to stay anonymous – we promise that no one will ever know it's you. Remember: Dish-It gets a load of letters every day so it may take a while to reply to yours. Keep checking back for her reply, or watch for answered Dish-It questions that are similar to your own.


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    b-ball7

    b-ball7 wrote:

    i like this boy and he has a girlfriend but he lives in my nahboorhood and i have more friends and if he tells some 1 my reputation is done for what should i do?
    commented: Thu Aug 07, 2014

    JolteonEX

    JolteonEX wrote:

    Hi, so my friend, Taea, she says I am always writing my story or on the computer and i never hang out with her but i do! After school, before school, during school! What do i do?
    commented: Wed May 21, 2014

    HUNKERS

    HUNKERS wrote:

    I like this one girl but I don't know if she likes me so what should I do
    commented: Thu Jan 23, 2014

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