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Dear Dish-It : Quick Advice

Dish-it gets so many questions, she doesn’t always have time to answer them all right away! Here are some quickie answers for some of the shorter questions she’s received.


I like a boy but he’s got a girlfriend. What do I do? He likes me but he likes her, too! – s8tergirl13_09


Nothing. You can’t go after a guy – no matter how much you like him or he likes you – if he has a girlfriend. Trust me, if you do anything, like ask him to break up with her for you, he’ll eventually blame you for it and you won’t be able to have a relationship with him. Sit back, say nothing and wait to see what happens. As long as he has a girlfriend, you can’t be with him and he can’t be with you.


There’s this guy I really like but he has a girlfriend. How should I tell him – by e-mail – that I like him? I don’t want his girlfriend to find out, but I think he already knows I like him but hasn’t said anything. – cuty_me


Just like my advice to the user above, you can’t and shouldn’t do anything about this situation. In fact, if you can’t just be friends with this guy you need to stop e-mailing and/or communicating with him altogether. It’s not fair to his girlfriend, it’s not fair to him and it’s not fair to you. Plus, if he knows you like him and he hasn’t said anything, that means he doesn’t want to bring the issue out into the open for whatever reason. You need to respect that and keep your distance from guys who have girlfriends in the future!


I liked this boy and he asked me out. I said no but I think I made a mistake. What do I do? – Almisha123


This one’s easy. Ask him out yourself! It’s your turn to make a move anyway – he already tried! But be prepared for him to say no. After all, you turned him down first and he may be feeling bad about it.


I’m having boyfriend problems. He won’t call or text me in homeroom, he never comes over and he didn’t come to my parties. We’ve been dating for three years – what should I do? – dogs4ever532


Have these problems just started happening? Did he used to do all those things you say he doesn’t do now? Your options are to talk to him about it or to let him go. Remember, it’s impossible to make anyone change for you – no matter how many talks you have with them. Change happens when you want to change – not when someone tells you to. So it may just be that your relationship is coming to an end, which isn’t the end of the world. All it means is that you now have a chance to go out and find someone who will do all the things you say you want or expect a boyfriend to do for you.


I have a crush on this boy and I don’t know if he knows. What should I do? – im_just_me_09


You have two options: you can tell him how you feel or you can sit back and wait to see what happens. There isn’t a right or wrong here. Do what you feel more comfortable with. I really believe that if it’s meant to be it will happen, so you don’t really need to do anything but have some patience. Or read Read Dish-It’s article on How To Ask Someone Out.


If you've got a burning question, need some love advice or find yourself thinking about things like sex, depression, self-esteem, boyfriends, girlfriends, best friends, bullying or peer pressure, don't hesitate to Dish-It here. Send your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com. And if you hang out in the chat rooms with other Kidzworld members who know you by your username, just send in your secret question using a different nickname if you want to stay anonymous – we promise that no one will ever know it's you. Remember: Dish-It gets a load of letters every day so it may take a while to reply to yours. Keep checking back for her reply, or watch for answered Dish-It questions that are similar to your own.


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    Dear Dish-It In The Forums

    rainbowpoptart
    Yes, purely for the fact that you should not "hate" your sister (or anyone, for that matter).  I'm guessing by "get in trouble for her", you mean she does something wrong and the blame is all put on you? Yeah, little siblings tend to do that a lot. My brother did for the longest time, until my parents found out how much a liar he is. She, hopefully, will grow out of this eventually. Either that, or your parent[s]/guardian[s] will eventually see through her. You lose your friends to her? By this do you mean your friends want to hang out with her and they want you to tag along and you don't? Or do you mean your friends chose your sister over you? If it's the latter, then perhaps you shouldn't have ever referred to those people as friends. You'll find friends who'll prefer you over your sister, I'm sure of it. The only thing I can tell you to do is try to get along with your sister. Every group of siblings has their cats and dogs moment in life, but they grow out of it (most of the time; there are, of course, circumstances where it doesn't work out that way). Please be grateful for your sister, even if you two fight a lot. You never know how much you need something until it's gone.
    reply about 14 hours
    liddielover
    i hate my little sister because i get introuble for her and lose my friends to her.is that wrong?
    reply about 15 hours
    skylar245
    skylar245 posted in Friends:
    "rainbowpoptart" wrote: "skylar245" wrote: Teacher said to wait for the Bus Driver and the counselor, she just talks to me and doesn't tell The Princible Then maybe try telling the principal yourself, and you should also report that the driver, teacher, and counselor haven't done anything to help you. If that fails, tell another trusted adult, like your mother. I'm sure someone you're close to would do their best to get justice. This is a major problem and it's a shame no one's done anything to help. ​No one listens to me anyway but my friends
    reply 2 days
    rainbowpoptart
    rainbowpoptart posted in Friends:
    "skylar245" wrote:Teacher said to wait for the Bus Driver and the counselor, she just talks to me and doesn't tell The Princible Then maybe try telling the principal yourself, and you should also report that the driver, teacher, and counselor haven't done anything to help you. If that fails, tell another trusted adult, like your mother. I'm sure someone you're close to would do their best to get justice. This is a major problem and it's a shame no one's done anything to help.
    reply 2 days
    skylar245
    skylar245 posted in Friends:
    "rainbowpoptart" wrote: "skylar245" wrote: My bus driver does NOTHING about it EVEN IF HE SEE'S IT! he only wrote the two girls up but not the girl that hit me Then report them to a teacher or the school counselor. Behaviour like that is not acceptable in the slightest. ​Teacher said to wait for the Bus Driver and the counselor, she just talks to me and doesn't tell The Princible
    reply 2 days