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Dear Dish-It, Am I Cheating on My BF? (pg. 2)


Dear Dish-It

This is pg.2....I'm in a relationship with an older girl. She's only older by a year but we were friends before we started liking each other. The first two weeks of us being together were great. It was a blast. Now she's all moody and all she does is ignore me as much as possible and I only see her twice a week max! Recently she's changed but still does it slightly. The problem is that she's new to the whole dating thing and I wanna go slow but she was fine with it early on and now it's basically dead. I don't know what to do. Right now I'm thinking of not calling or texting her as much so she understands what it's like. I'm really confused. Any help?
heretic266


Dear heretic266

The key to any successful relationship is communication. Instead of asking me why your girlfriend is suddenly acting sketchy, why not ask her? Unless your girlfriend is a mind-reader, she's never going to know how you feel if you don't tell her. Someone who is new to the dating scene probably isn't the best at expressing their feelings either, so give her the opportunity to explain what's going on. She's probably just a bit overwhelmed with the whole BF/GF thing and needs some space. Instead of getting back at her by not calling or messaging her, you should ask her what she thinks would make things better for both of you. You two have the potential to continue on having a fun relationship, if you would just open up and say what's on your mind. Good Luck!


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    astucieuse331
    astucieuse331 posted in Friends:
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