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Dear Dish-It, Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

I really could use your advice. Right now I am with this guy, well... not actually "with" him. You see, me and him have been on-and-off for the past year. He cheated on me once but I took him back. He told me that he regretted cheating on me and that I was the best thing that has happened to him. Things changed and we are really happy together. We LOVE each other. But the thing is, summer is just around the corner and I really won't be able to see much of him. I love him but a part of me thinks that he is gonna do me wrong again. He thinks that's crazy but he did it once, he might do it again. I really never believed the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater." Maybe I'm just being paranoid. Seriously I don't know what's up with me. Dish-it, I could sure use your advice.
Loving_Angel


Dear Loving_Angel,

This is tough. Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship and once it's gone, it's way-hard to get back. You love this guy, and he may seem honest when he says he'd never cheat again, but for some reason you still don't believe him. Now, I'm not a big believer in the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater" either... but I am a big believer in the saying "Trust your gut." Your gut says this guy can't be trusted. Maybe you should tell him you need "a break" this summer and take the time apart to really think about things. Good luck!


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