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Dear Dish-It: I Am Heartbroken

Low Self-Esteem
Low Self-Esteem

Dear Dish-It,

I had this crush and soon the popular girls found out. Then one of them told him and a week later they started going out. I am so confused. I even had a dream from god that said we should be together. What should I do? I really, really love him and my life just gets worse and worse.

heartbroken


Dear heartbroken,


Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do about the new couple. But the good news is, you CAN do something about yourself! It sounds like you feel pretty down about yourself and your life. This problem is called lack of self-esteem.


When you have low self-esteem, you may not feel very good about yourself, as in the person you are. You may not love yourself - and you may not even like yourself very much. This is a very bad way to feel about the only person in the world that matters, which is YOU.


The other problem with low self-esteem is that it makes other people feel the same way about you. That is, it's hard to attract a partner or a boyfriend who will love you when you don't even love yourself.


My suggestion is you start learning how to like and, eventually, like yourself - before you start hoping to have someone else like and love you back. Confidence (which is the same as self-esteem) is VERY attractive - work on building up your own confidence and the boys will come running to you.


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    JesseWesse

    JesseWesse wrote:

    im always heartbroken
    commented: Wed Apr 16, 2014

    JesseWesse

    JesseWesse wrote:

    This ALWAYS happens to me the right girl is out there but I can't find her );
    commented: Tue Apr 15, 2014

    Never-Shout-Alexa!
    She needs help on a broken heart not shelf-esteem but I am too it's not a good feeling ...
    commented: Wed Dec 19, 2012

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