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Dear Dish-It, I've Always Thought She Was Hot

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Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

Well, there is this girl. And she REALLY likes me. She's a pretty good friend too. I always thought she was HOT, but if we go out, won't that wreck our friendship? She asked me out and I was afraid to say no cuz I thought she'd get upset and cry and stuff - and she IS my friend. She's HOT and nice and all that, and I mean HOT! Write!
Ben54


Dear Ben54,

So this friend of yours, is she HOT? Cuz that's all I really got from your letter. You didn't say anything about why she was a great friend, what you two had in common or really any good reason for the two of you to go out. You just didn't want to hear her cry and you think it would be cool to date her cuz she's HOT. Sorry, that's just not gonna work. Of course you will ruin your friendship if you say yes - you'd be dating her for all the wrong reasons. And that will make her cry a whole lot more than if you are just honest and let her know that you're worried that dating will ruin what you already have. Whether she's HOT or not.


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    K.G BALLER

    K.G BALLER wrote:

    YeA
    commented: Mon Apr 01, 2013

    Brenda13

    Brenda13 wrote:

    looks shouldnt matter...the personality and who they are at heart, should tell you abou...
    commented: Mon Mar 25, 2013

    princessarisha22
    agree
    commented: Sun Mar 24, 2013

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    InternetOwl
    What part of it are you scared of? Is it eating in public and around other people, or just eating in general?  What it might be, if it's eating in public you don't like, is social anxiety, or social phobia. You should ask your doctor to check, because if it is, they can offer you ways to help. For instance, they might recommend therapists or group sessions to help ease your fear.  Even if it's just a phobia or, in unlikelier circumstances, an eating disorder, you should still go to your doctor or a therapist so you can try to overcome it. Try doing things that calm you down before these situations as well, like exercise, reading or listening to music (I'm not sure what relaxes you but sometimes these help). Also, you should try to slowly get used to the situations. So don't force yourself to eat straight away when you're out, but slowly start doing so whenever your comfortable with doing so. Unlike your mum wants, you can't just "stop" being scared because that's not how it works.  But right now, please don't force yourself into any of these situations. It's not good for your mental health to be forced to face a phobia of yours often. 
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    Dear Dish-It, Within the last few years I have felt a bit sick and shaky when we go out to eat. It's not so bad when it's a carvery lunch or something at a pub, but settling down for a chocolate brownie and a milkshake shakes me up. Don't get me wrong, I love going out with Mum, but it's just sitting down and taking a bite. I want to chuck it in the bin. I love eating brownies and stuff at home and I'm pretty healthy. But I refuse to go to the town before lunch in fear. Mum told me I got to stop this or I'm going to develop a terrible phobia.  Please help! ElfyKathy, worried
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    She isn't jealous she is just dissappointed that you chose to get lessons when she did to get better . She had to get better to catch up to you so you can enjoyher as your best friend. Then you went ahead and got lessons as if you needed them. She is just upset that you showed off a talent that she didn't have. And she tried to get better to impress you but you got better as well. Which kept her at the stage she will always be at my best friend sings way betyer than me but I try. 
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    NianiNaturallyNerdy3
    It may be hard but break it down to them we aren't friends but we can be associates. It may leave them a bit dissappointed but tell them we aren't in the same category to be as close as friends. 
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