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Dear Dish-It,

I'm going on a trip to Hong Kong with my family for two days (for Christmas), and my best friend is too. She's from Hong Kong so she knows the place well. She wants to meet me there and take me shopping but my mom's familiar with that country and she hopes we can just be together as a family. I also know that she wouldn't allow me to go out with any friends in a foreign country. So, I told my friend that I can't make it and I apologized but she was really mean to me and my mom. I've only gotten to be close with her this last year but I know she gets mad at me often for not having things the way she wanted. So in this situation, am I wrong or what should I do with her?
charzie

Dear charzie,

There's nothing wrong with the way that you've dealt with this situation. Your friend needs to learn that she won't always get her own way, and that she can't have a temper tantrum every time she doesn't. It's totally reasonable that your mom would want you to spend your time in Hong Kong with the fam, especially since you'll only be there for two days. So, why not invite your friend to come hang with you and your family for a bit? Or, ask your mom if your friend can tag along on any outings you my have planned while on vacation. This way, you'll get to spend time with your pal and your family. If this doesn't sound like something she's interested in, then you should seriously consider distancing yourself from this girl. You don't need to be surrounding yourself with selfish people, cuz they'll only bring you down - and will never be there when you actually need them. Have a great vacation!

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