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Dear Dish-it: My BFF's Dating My Ex

Dear Dish-it,


My second best friend in the whole entire world is still dating my ex. Me and him were really really really close and he seems to have moved on from me. But I still have very strong feelings for him. I have told my friend the way I feel about him but it’s not making a difference. But I still wanna be friends with her. I am an emotional wreck.


bubblegumkisses


Dear bubblegumkisses,


Wow – this is one of the toughest situations to be in when it comes to friendship/love. You want to be happy for your best friend, but you also feel hurt and confused about why she is dating your ex.


I think that the best thing to do is to talk to your friend. Get her one-on-one and tell her what’s been going on, being totally honest about how you feel. I know you said you’ve tried this before, but honestly, there’s no other way to get your feelings across, so you’re just going to have to try again. Just be honest and let her know it’s hurting your feelings. Try to make her understand that you’re being sincere – not jealous.


If it’s looking like she won’t even consider the possibility of taking a break with the guy or making a compromise with you until it’s worked out then consider maybe taking a mini break from her. It doesn’t mean she has to dump him right away because you say so, but she should at least be willing to tone it down or come up with some other idea to help you. It’s never cool when a girl picks a guy over a friend. If something changes though, and you decide you’re happy with them together, then still talk your concerns out to keep the communication open, but let her know she has your support.


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