Dear Dish-it: We're Falling Apart

Dear Dish-it,

I've been with my BFF since Pre-K. Now we're going into 5th grade and we're falling apart. I'm losing her and I don't know what to do. We chat once in a while but not a lot. We don't go over to each other's houses a lot. I wanna stay friends with her forever. I need help!

fallin apart

Dear FA,

It's sad, but sometimes even the best friendships drift apart - it's no one's fault. It happens gradually and sometimes you don’t even realize it until it may seem like it’s too late. Here’s the thing though: it never is. While you may not chat that much anymore or go to each other's houses, your friendship is far from dead. You’ll find by reconnecting and making an effort to see each other, you can definitely bring this friendship back to life.

Natural Connection

Getting the friendship flowing again is as easy as finding the strength to make the first move. The next time she’s online, try chatting with her. You’ll find since it’s been a while since you chatted there will be TONS to catch up on. Ask about her classes, sports, activities, summer plans - anything. Once you break the ice, it will be like you never were apart in the first place.

Get Together

Once you have your convo and reconnect, continue to talk regularly with your friend. Make a point to bring her back into your life. Invite her to sleep over one weekend. Try inviting her to the next party you. You’ll find the more you talk and see each other, the more you’ll build a bridge over that gap of separation. Sure, you may not be the BFFs you used to be, but in the end, what matters is that you still and will always be friends.

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