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Dear Dish-It: Bossy BFF

Dear Dish-It,

My best friend is bossy. Should I keep her or kick her to the curb?

AWD


Dear AWD,

The thing about friendship – even BEST friendships – is that they have their ups and they have their downs, too, just like those rollercoaster rides you see at amusement parks! In terms of whether or not you should stay best friends with someone who is being mean to you, treating you badly or pushing you around, well, it’s really all up to you.


Of course, having someone be bossy and tell you what to do all the time is never fun. But before you decide to end your friendship with your bossy BFF, you should sit down and think about some things first. Like, how much do you value your friendship with her, besides the bossy part? How long have the two of you been friends? Will you miss her when she’s not your friend anymore? All of these are important things to think about before you pull the plug on your friendship.


Next, you have two options. If you’ve thought it out really well and you’ve come to the conclusion that you just don’t want or need to be friends with her anymore, that’s cool. But if you think you’d like to keep your friendship, the next step is to help your BFF stop being so bossy. You can try confronting her directly about it, writing her a letter or an e-mail, or just dropping subtle hints when she starts ordering you around. My best advice? Don’t let her boss you around. The less you give in to her bossiness the more she’ll realize she can’t treat you badly anymore.


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