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Dear Dish-It: Big Bro Bully

Dear Dish-it,

My brother keeps bullying me about not being as big as him. He calls me shorty and he picks on me every day. How do I help it?

dish it out person

Dear dish it out person,

When I was younger, my older brother used to pick on me all the time. He was 10 times strong as me so it was easy for him to be a bully. Even though my parents told him to stop, he kept on doing it! It only got better when we both grew up a bit and got more mature – now me and my big bro are really tight! Here’s what you can do in the meantime…

Talk A Lot

Have you tried talking to your bro about how you feel? I mean REALLY sitting down and having a serious convo with him about it? If not, you should let him know how much he’s hurting your feelings by teasing you and how self-conscious you feel thanks to him calling you names. He needs to know that what he’s doing isn’t right.

Don’t Retaliate

Whatever you do, don’t try and get your brother back. It’s always better to take the high road and just walk away. Being the more mature person – even though he is technically the older one – is always the way to go. Maybe when he sees that his actions aren’t getting a rise out of you anymore, he’ll get bored and stop. Better yet, he’ll realize that what he’s doing is really hurting you.

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What do you think dish it out person should do? Have your say by leaving a comment below this story!

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SmartSunnyShadow
I have one so annoying sister, that it feels like I have 200 of them, oh my god. She's pounding on the door right now, HELP! 
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SmartSunnyShadow
Dad, obviously. I can't even explain what he does to me!
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SmartSunnyShadow
Well, if they are your BFFs, they shouldn't be teasing you to make you feel bad. Me, and my BFFs tease each other all the time playfully, but I understand that this is different, and if it's making you feel bad it isn't playful at all.   Maybe your eldest friend is having some trouble with family issues, bad grades, body changes, etc. It's okay to be angry, so maybe you should leave her space for a few days, and see if it turns better. If it isn't, then try to first make her calm down. Then, make her talk to you about why she is so angry and ask if you can try to help. If nothing turns out better, tell her that you feel uncomfortable, and you want her to talk to you.  For your 3rd eldest friend, support her as much as possible, and stand up for her in this terrible situation. If you are all BFFs, then you should all be very close and comfortable around each other, and the fight shouldn't last long. If not, they are not your real friends, and you have to go on without them. I have tons of advice on how to make new friends, so just ask me if you want to know. Your 2nd eldest friend seems to be the main problem.  First of all, tell her to stop, and say how you don't like her bullying you. You must say what she is doing wrong, and how it makes you feel. If she doesn't care, tell her you're serious, and you hate what she is doing to you. If it continues, ignore what trash she is saying, and just simply walk away. Focus on other things that will help make you feel better. Remember, all she is is a person, and it's up to you to act appropriately.  Stay positive, and calm. Focus on other things, and if she continues, tell her that you can all be friends and you miss her. Go get another friend to stand up with you, and tell her that you will report to an adult if she won't stop. She may be your friend, but she deserves it. I told on my BFF when she was mean, so it's all okay now.  If all else fails, get a trusted adult, and hang out with nicer friends. Your other friends will learn from their mistakes. If not, warn them, and give them a sincere kindness note of how you miss being friends. Then, also give one to the bully.
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AnnaOfExquizurd
Yeah, @CyclonicBass the best option really is to find a girl with a quirky personality. Become friends with her. Possibly, over time, she'll grow close to you and accept a request to be with you. Hope it goes well!
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drowning
You go out and you find someone who you can be you with. It's not a hard question to find the answer too.
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