What Is Bullying?

On March 21, 2005, 16 year-old Jeff Weise of Red Lake, Minnesota arrived at school and killed five students, one teacher and one security guard, after already killing his grandfather and his grandfather's girlfriend. Many theories have been discussed as to why this horrible shooting took place, including that the young shooter had been continously bullied in school and out. Read on to find out how you can prevent bullying in your school.

Bully or Bully Hater?

Ask yourself this:

  • Do you make fun of people because of how they look or their grades?
  • Do you use physical force to get your way?
  • Are people afraid of you?

If you answered yes to any of the above questions, YOU ARE A BULLY. Read on to get the scoop on what to do about bullying.

The Big, Bad Bully

"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me." Is that what your parents tell you to say to that kid in math class who makes fun of your hair? That'll make the whole thing go away, right? Not. Fat chance. If you actually uttered those words you should expect to be picked on - heck you'd probably make fun of yourself. So what does work when trying to make a bully back off?

Dealing with Bullying

First things first. Who are bullies? Look around, they come in all shapes, colors and clothes. They can be popular or nerdy kids. Anybody who makes fun of, scares or hurts someone for fun and sport is a bully. Think of everybody you know - chances are you may even know more than one. You may even be one sometimes.

You Go Girl? Bullies in All Shapes and Sizes

Bullies are not just mean boys. Girls bully too. Boy bullies think that they're tough guys and push, hit, kick or slam you into a locker. Ouch!!! You know, they do things that you can see. Girl bullies can be more conniving. They whisper things about you, tell their friends to dis' you and spread nasty rumors. You may not see what they are doing, but it hurts just as bad.

Bullies - Ya Talkin'to Me?

Bullying is more than teasing. It can be words, threats or fists. Check yourself, if you feel like you are being bullied, you probably are. That means you need to talk to a trusted adult ASAP. If you're feeling lost or left-out, talking to someone about it is a step in the right direction. Sure, they might not be able to stop all the bullying, but chances are a school counselor, teacher or parent will try their best to give you the tools to deal with the bullying head on.

Letting it Out - Bully Solutions

If you're feeling bullied at school, you need to start finding an outlet for your pain and frustration. It totally sucks to be made fun of and picked on and all that negative energy can cause you to start feeling angry and hateful. Instead of letting those jerks get to you, try finding an activity that makes you feel good about yourself. Whether it's a sport like soccer or mountain biking, or even getting in touch with your artistic side by starting to paint or sculpt, it helps to have something you can channel all that built up frustration into.

What Celeb's Have to Say About Bullies

Here's what celebrities think of bullying and bullies:

  • "Don't be scared to tell a teacher, an older brother or sister, or parent. They can help you." - Sharif Abdur-Rahim, Portland Trailblazers.
  • "Have respect for yourself and pride enough to meet the situation head on. Learn to 'fight back' peacefully." - Stu Jackson, Vice-President of Operations, NBA.
  • "I was really tall and skinny. Other kids would call me a long, legged puma... My parents instilled confidence in me and helped me understand that not everyone will like you, but that is their problem." - Charmaine Crooks, 5-Time Olympian, International Olympic Committee Member.
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EndlessDream posted in Friends:
Hmmm....Then she mustn't be necessarily "using" you, if she is not getting something in return ( As far as we know of). However, It does sound like she is being extremely unfair. That just might be how she is. Not exactly loyal to anyone. Well, try to talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. And, if it doesn't work out, then she might not be a great friend to hang around with, and maybe you will find someone else who enjoys your company. I hope this helps, and good luck :)
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XxIHateMathxX posted in Friends:
No not really. Like I said, one minute she's all smiley and then she doesn't even look at me. Most of the time I see her with Daniela and Andrea. Today she was asking me if I was going to hang out with her, Daniela, Andrea and Luisa during recess. When I told her that I was 'going to have to think' she was like, "Whatever." and ran off to catch up with the Threesome. Thanks. :)
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EndlessDream posted in Friends:
Is she asking you to do things for her? Like help with homework, carry her books and so on?
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XxIHateMathxX posted in Friends:
This is gonna be long:   I have this 'friend' Amelia. She and I bonded really fast last year and we've become inseparable.   But lately she's blowing me off and my other best friend Belen told me: Amelia is actually using you. She does this to new kids at school, especially from foreign countries. She thinks because you're Chinese and the Chinese teacher's daughter, you'll help her. She's also using you as a backup friend - a substitute. There's this new girl Daniela, who Amelia thinks is her new best friend. She thinks that when Daniela stop hanging out with her, she'll have you.   The thing is, Daniela is pretty nice and she probably doesn't know all the trouble she's causing. Belen's old 'best friend' Andrea is doing the same to her.   I also learned that Amelia is seemingly the 'most popular girl in school' because she's mean to everyone. She always passes by the little kids' classrooms and hugs them & stuff. They seem to love her, but now I know it's because they think if they're nice they won't get bullied.   Maybe she WAS using me but I dunno. Belen says that each kid in the entire school has a bad story about Amelia and something she did to them. I said, "Then how was she so nice to me last year?" Then Belen was all like, "She was using you."   I don't know if she's telling the truth. She and Amelia are deadly enemies and she might be making up the whole Amelia story just to get back at her. Although Amelia has been dropping a few signs that she IS using me as a substitute friend.   Sometimes when I walk in, she'll be like "OOOOHHH! CASSANDRA! HI! HOW ARE YOU! C'MON, LOOK AT THIS! WE'RE GONNA HAVE SOOOO MUCH FUN TOGETHER ..."   And other times I'm like, "Hey, Amelia!" and she says, "Oh. Huh? Yeah, hi ..."  Once during PE we had to sit down and on the way to the gym, she was chatting with me in a BBBBFFFF way. But then when we had to partner up she said with Andrea, Daniela and someone else who I forgot.   I don't know what to do. It's just so weird. Even though now I know she MIGHT be using me (I'm not sure if she really is) it just seems WEIRD. Even for a supposed ##### she was my possibly fake best friend for the whole of last year. It's WEIRD to suddenly switch.   I don't even know if this should be happening. We've only just started 5th grade. Doesn't this WEIRD #### start happening around middle school? Thank you, everyone who will help in advance. P.S. Please include flirting advice. - A Girl Who Might Just Lose Her Possibly Fake Best Friend
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