Dear Dish-It: Frenemies

Dear Dish-It,

How do I make up with a friend?

Ask It Girl

Dear AIG,

I’m sorry to hear that you and your friend had a fight. But not all is lost – one little fight (or even a big one) doesn’t necessarily mean that the friendship is over! Here’s some advice for turning a frenemy back into a friend…

Talk it Out

I guess this is sorta obvious, but you and your friend really need to have a talk about what happened between you. Figure out a time when the two of you can sit down and have a quiet discussion about this – no yelling! – and try and sort things out. During the conversation, explain to her that you are sorry and that you miss having her as a friend. Listen to her if she has any concerns about what happened, and work out a plan to make sure it doesn’t happen again.

Forgive & Forget

The biggest key to making up with a friend after a fight is to forgive and forget. Once the two of you have decided to put whatever happened between you in the past, that’s where it’s gotta stay. Decide in your heart that you really forgive your friend, and don’t bring up what happened in the future. The two of you might argue again, but make sure it’s never about something that you’ve already decided to forgive each other for.

Give it Time

It may take a little while to get your friendship back to where it was, but if that’s what you truly want, then it will eventually happen – you just gotta give it some time. Don’t expect everything to immediately go back to normal. You may have to adjust to a few changes in your friendship but, before long, the two of you will likely be back on track – and hopefully better friends than before!

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