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Dear Dish-It: My Brother Is More Popular Than Me

Dear Dish-It,

I feel like no one likes me. On Kidzworld, I have less than 30 friends, while my brother has over 100. At school I’m invisible, and my brother’s so popular. All the girls like him and he has a girlfriend. But when I tried to ask a girl out, she laughed in my face. The friends I do have think I’m really fun and cool to hang out with, but I don’t have many. My brother is a jerk, too. Whenever his friends are around, he completely ignores me, but people still like him. Why? I feel so alone.


Dear Lonely,

It’s not right that your brother makes you feel bad about yourself when his friends are around. But there’s a chance that he doesn’t know he’s doing it. Have you ever talked to him about it and told him how it makes you feel when he ignores you? If it’s what you want, why not ask him to include you with his friends every once in a while?

Remember Those Who Matter

When it comes to your own friends, remember this: life isn’t about collecting more friends than your brother on your Kidzworld account. It’s about having a handful of strong bonds with people who you can truly trust. You say “the friends I do have think I’m really fun and cool to hang out with.” Don’t discount that statement. It’s not about how many you have, it’s about making the ones you have matter. And obviously you matter to them.

The Principles of Popularity

Your brother may be popular, but have you ever stopped to ask yourself why? Other people are naturally drawn to those who are confident, outgoing and positive. If you’re always sitting back feeling glum and resentful toward your brother, people are going to pick up on your negative vibes. The same goes if you’re trying too hard to make new friends. If you can first learn to love and respect yourself and feel confident in your own skin, that confidence will begin to shine through. When you’re at school, be positive, smile and interact with people naturally. That’s the first step.

Get the Girl

With girls, confidence and positivity are also key players. But it helps to add in a little mystery. Don’t ask out the first girl who smiles at you. Let her wonder whether you like her for a change! Most importantly, be genuine. The right girl will like you for you. 

Have Your Say

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Dear Dish-It In The Forums

Write an anonymous note. And tell him to put it somewhere that only you can get it back to see what he says.
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hey, i got a question, how would you get over a major mess-up, then try to act attractive, so you would still have a chance at maybe making a relationship with your crush.
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Ok, so how would you tell a crush you like them without them knowing it's you?
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drowning posted in Friends:
I've been there when I was still in school. I don't personally have many friends now that I'm graduated, but that's more because the people here aren't worth being friends with. Off topic, my bad- Anyways, just try being a nice person. Sit with the other kid that's alone during lunch, find someone who needs someone to talk too, be open. I realize this can be difficult to do if you're shy, believe me, I've been there as well. Just remember that you need to stay yourself. I've lost friends because they turned out to be someone totally different than how they made themselves out to be. It's not worth it to pretend you're someone else. If it doesn't happen naturally after a little while, then you just have to keep in mind that it's your turn to put yourself out there. Remember that, "hey, I put myself out there and I made a friend, that's pretty cool." But, also remember that, "hey, I put myself out there and I didn't make a friend, that's pretty okay too." If you put yourself out there and someone doesn't accept it, then that's okay. It just means they weren't meant to be your friend and someone else will come along much better for you.
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Powerslave posted in Friends:
If most people from this generation don't want to be friends with you, you are doing something right.
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