Kw-logo-smaller

Dear Dish-It: How Do I Stop The Bullying?

Dear Dish-It,

I have been bullied for a while now and I don't know why. I'm not the slimmest or the prettiest, though I've been told that I have a great personality. What do I do to make the bullying stop, and what do I change about myself?

Bullied

Dear Bullied,

You don’t need to change a single thing about yourself. Bullies are an unfortunate part of life that nearly everyone faces at some point. Just because they tease you does not mean you have to make changes. Remember, the only reason bullies like to bring other people down is to make themselves feel better. It may not seem like it, but chances are your bully has low self-esteem, is depressed or is bullied at home. Because of that, he or she feels the need to take it out on others.

Why They're Bullying You

If you’re a happy person, your bully may want to bring you down a peg. He or she may use any excuse to tease you even if it’s not warranted, just to make you feel bad about yourself. But sometimes the things that a bully teases you about are the very things that the bully envies. And other times, bullies are just trying to look cool in front of their friends.

Don't Let Them Get to You

Next time you’re bullied remember that he or she is just trying to get a reaction out of you. If you can shrug it off likes it’s nothing or even laugh, eventually your bully will get bored and leave you alone. If that doesn't work, or the bullying escalates, you may need to confide in an adult you trust.

Have Your Say

Do you have any advice for Bullied? Leave your comment below! 

 

222 Comments

latest videos

Bully-poll

What Should Be Done With School Bullies? Vote!

  • Send them to a far out planet
  • Ignore them
  • Give them a year of detention
  • Kill them with kindness

related stories

Micro_the-bully-project-movie-poster-mic
The shy kid who looks different, the girl who came out as gay, the teen who took a gun on the bu...
Micro_bully-mic
Lisa Bunnage, Parenting Coach, discusses bullying prevention tips.
Micro_school-bully-mic
Lisa Bunnage, Parenting Coach, discusses school bullying prevention.
Micro_teenage-bully-mic
Lisa Bunnage, Parenting Coach, discusses teenage bullying prevention.

Dear Dish-It in the forums

tweenblogger
The best way is to sit down with your cousin and grandma and talk about it. If you show them your Ipad it would really help. They are only doing it becuase they care. For more pm me.  :/
reply 6 minutes
tweenblogger
Hey, My parents are getting a divorce. Well, it is almost over now. Need help and some answers? I have been thru it all. Reply or pm me. :)
reply 9 minutes
tweenblogger
tweenblogger posted in Friends:
Honestly, I have been there and done that. It totally sucks cause they are bad freinds, but you don't want to be alone. Pm me... :) 
reply about 1 hour
tweenblogger
tweenblogger posted in Friends:
Hey, If I were you DITCH THEM! Everybody deserves better. Don't ever let them make you feel guilty.   :)
reply about 1 hour
carolyna_03
carolyna_03 posted in Friends:
Hi there I need ur help with advice on my stupid "fake" Bffs direct message on kW plz its a long story text me first tho others I won't no who to text
reply about 7 hours

play online games