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Dear Dish-It: How Do I Stop The Bullying?

Dear Dish-It,

I have been bullied for a while now and I don't know why. I'm not the slimmest or the prettiest, though I've been told that I have a great personality. What do I do to make the bullying stop, and what do I change about myself?

Bullied

Dear Bullied,

You don’t need to change a single thing about yourself. Bullies are an unfortunate part of life that nearly everyone faces at some point. Just because they tease you does not mean you have to make changes. Remember, the only reason bullies like to bring other people down is to make themselves feel better. It may not seem like it, but chances are your bully has low self-esteem, is depressed or is bullied at home. Because of that, he or she feels the need to take it out on others.

Why They're Bullying You

If you’re a happy person, your bully may want to bring you down a peg. He or she may use any excuse to tease you even if it’s not warranted, just to make you feel bad about yourself. But sometimes the things that a bully teases you about are the very things that the bully envies. And other times, bullies are just trying to look cool in front of their friends.

Don't Let Them Get to You

Next time you’re bullied remember that he or she is just trying to get a reaction out of you. If you can shrug it off likes it’s nothing or even laugh, eventually your bully will get bored and leave you alone. If that doesn't work, or the bullying escalates, you may need to confide in an adult you trust.

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Dear Dish-It, I'm a 16 yr old sophmore and I LOVE Animaniacs and Queen. I have some problems emotionally and socially and I think different thoughts then others.  I get bullied sometimes cause I really take this little pic of Queen everywhere I go. I also sometime answer to the name of Freddie Mercury (no reason, just came from where I love Queen very much)  When a person bullies me to make me cry, what should I do?
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sallylace
sallylace posted in Friends:
so i gave someone my password because i was going to have like a message on my profile but she changed my profile and i could not get on she talked to my friends and made them hate me i dont know what she did i finally changed my password back to my usual password and i find out that everybody hates me and i dont even know what happened
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ehmr
ehmr posted in Friends:
he probably just asked for your name y'know...
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Blizzardgirl76
Blizzardgirl76 posted in Friends:
You should ask the guy who he is then go round asking people you know if they know him. Then if they say yes you can be almost 100% sure it was them that told him your name. Hopefully this will give you an idea on who the guy is and help you keep on top of the situation.  :) 
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Orange Oh wait that's a TV show.
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