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Dear Dish-It: How Do I Stop The Bullying?

Dear Dish-It,

I have been bullied for a while now and I don't know why. I'm not the slimmest or the prettiest, though I've been told that I have a great personality. What do I do to make the bullying stop, and what do I change about myself?

Bullied

Dear Bullied,

You don’t need to change a single thing about yourself. Bullies are an unfortunate part of life that nearly everyone faces at some point. Just because they tease you does not mean you have to make changes. Remember, the only reason bullies like to bring other people down is to make themselves feel better. It may not seem like it, but chances are your bully has low self-esteem, is depressed or is bullied at home. Because of that, he or she feels the need to take it out on others.

Why They're Bullying You

If you’re a happy person, your bully may want to bring you down a peg. He or she may use any excuse to tease you even if it’s not warranted, just to make you feel bad about yourself. But sometimes the things that a bully teases you about are the very things that the bully envies. And other times, bullies are just trying to look cool in front of their friends.

Don't Let Them Get to You

Next time you’re bullied remember that he or she is just trying to get a reaction out of you. If you can shrug it off likes it’s nothing or even laugh, eventually your bully will get bored and leave you alone. If that doesn't work, or the bullying escalates, you may need to confide in an adult you trust.

Have Your Say

Do you have any advice for Bullied? Leave your comment below! 

 

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rainbowpoptart
rainbowpoptart posted in Friends:
"skylar245" wrote: I'm joining a new school in august ... the only people joining me are my bullies and my BFF, Alyssa. Actually, She might not even come! There's an easy way to erase that "bully" label you're giving these people. Would you like to hear it? Rhetorical question. Words only hurt if you let them. I understand how harmful negative comments can be, but you need to try your absolute best to ignore them. The main goal bullies have is to bring you down; they want to see you get upset. Shrug it off. A tweet from the lovely Suzy Berhow states "When some is nasty or treats you poorly. It says nothing about you, but a lot about them". That's a quote everyone should live by. Just keep your head up. ♥♥ Even if your friend doesn't go to that school with you, don't worry. I'm sure she'll still be there to give emotional support when needed. "skylar245" wrote:I barely had any friends at my old school because I was too "nerdy"! I'm scared that no one will like me because I ruined everything at my old school! please someone send advice! New school = Clean slate If you don't like things that took place at your old school, congratulations- you're going to be in an environment with different people who, likely, act a different way. The absolute best way to make new friends is to be yourself. Don't act like someone you're not just to please people. Who cares if you're "too nerdy"? At least you're not fake. And remember - even if you can't make new friends, you always have the ones that are already there for you- including your internet pals. They'll all have your back. Good luck. x
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Pink_Cool_Girl
Pink_Cool_Girl posted in Friends:
Socialize. Or drop your pencil in class next to someone, they will pick it up and you can say "Thanks, Hey, aren't you the kid from ____? I'm ___, nice to meet you!" And if all else fails {which it WONT!!} you always have us to escape reality. But still, good luck! I have a feeling you won't need it :)
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skylar245
skylar245 posted in Friends:
I'm joining a new school in august because of the 2020 vision, But the only people joining me are my bullies and my BFF, Alyssa. Actully, She might not even come! I barley had any friends at my old school because I was to "nerdy"! I'm scared that no one will like me because I ruined everything at my old school! please someone send advice!
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LittleHeartz
LittleHeartz posted in Friends:
I know it can be quite embarrassing sometimes when you want to invite your friends on this site. But just give it a try. Tell them about the cool features we get and tell how fun you have and stuff. I am sure if they really take your opinion seriously, they won't bother about the name 'kidzworld'. In my school, everybody think that kidzworld is a cool site and stuff.  :)
reply about 20 hours
trinityac
trinityac posted in Friends:
Sadly she isn't your friend... you should make new ones because she is fake
reply 1 day