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Dear Dish-It: How Do I Stop The Bullying?

Dear Dish-It,

I have been bullied for a while now and I don't know why. I'm not the slimmest or the prettiest, though I've been told that I have a great personality. What do I do to make the bullying stop, and what do I change about myself?

Bullied

Dear Bullied,

You don’t need to change a single thing about yourself. Bullies are an unfortunate part of life that nearly everyone faces at some point. Just because they tease you does not mean you have to make changes. Remember, the only reason bullies like to bring other people down is to make themselves feel better. It may not seem like it, but chances are your bully has low self-esteem, is depressed or is bullied at home. Because of that, he or she feels the need to take it out on others.

Why They're Bullying You

If you’re a happy person, your bully may want to bring you down a peg. He or she may use any excuse to tease you even if it’s not warranted, just to make you feel bad about yourself. But sometimes the things that a bully teases you about are the very things that the bully envies. And other times, bullies are just trying to look cool in front of their friends.

Don't Let Them Get to You

Next time you’re bullied remember that he or she is just trying to get a reaction out of you. If you can shrug it off likes it’s nothing or even laugh, eventually your bully will get bored and leave you alone. If that doesn't work, or the bullying escalates, you may need to confide in an adult you trust.

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Mayumi12

Mayumi12 wrote:

All the bullies!! GO DIE!!!
commented: Mon Sep 01, 2014

MonasYou

MonasYou wrote:

Anyone can make a difference in bullying
commented: Fri Jun 27, 2014

kayla213

kayla213 wrote:

I think you dont have to change anything your pretty the way you r
commented: Fri May 30, 2014

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InternetOwl
What part of it are you scared of? Is it eating in public and around other people, or just eating in general?  What it might be, if it's eating in public you don't like, is social anxiety, or social phobia. You should ask your doctor to check, because if it is, they can offer you ways to help. For instance, they might recommend therapists or group sessions to help ease your fear.  Even if it's just a phobia or, in unlikelier circumstances, an eating disorder, you should still go to your doctor or a therapist so you can try to overcome it. Try doing things that calm you down before these situations as well, like exercise, reading or listening to music (I'm not sure what relaxes you but sometimes these help). Also, you should try to slowly get used to the situations. So don't force yourself to eat straight away when you're out, but slowly start doing so whenever your comfortable with doing so. Unlike your mum wants, you can't just "stop" being scared because that's not how it works.  But right now, please don't force yourself into any of these situations. It's not good for your mental health to be forced to face a phobia of yours often. 
reply about 2 hours
ElfyKathy
Dear Dish-It, Within the last few years I have felt a bit sick and shaky when we go out to eat. It's not so bad when it's a carvery lunch or something at a pub, but settling down for a chocolate brownie and a milkshake shakes me up. Don't get me wrong, I love going out with Mum, but it's just sitting down and taking a bite. I want to chuck it in the bin. I love eating brownies and stuff at home and I'm pretty healthy. But I refuse to go to the town before lunch in fear. Mum told me I got to stop this or I'm going to develop a terrible phobia.  Please help! ElfyKathy, worried
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NianiNaturallyNerdy3
She isn't jealous she is just dissappointed that you chose to get lessons when she did to get better . She had to get better to catch up to you so you can enjoyher as your best friend. Then you went ahead and got lessons as if you needed them. She is just upset that you showed off a talent that she didn't have. And she tried to get better to impress you but you got better as well. Which kept her at the stage she will always be at my best friend sings way betyer than me but I try. 
reply about 3 hours
NianiNaturallyNerdy3
It may be hard but break it down to them we aren't friends but we can be associates. It may leave them a bit dissappointed but tell them we aren't in the same category to be as close as friends. 
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