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Dear Dish-It: How Do I Stop The Bullying?

Dear Dish-It,

I have been bullied for a while now and I don't know why. I'm not the slimmest or the prettiest, though I've been told that I have a great personality. What do I do to make the bullying stop, and what do I change about myself?

Bullied

Dear Bullied,

You don’t need to change a single thing about yourself. Bullies are an unfortunate part of life that nearly everyone faces at some point. Just because they tease you does not mean you have to make changes. Remember, the only reason bullies like to bring other people down is to make themselves feel better. It may not seem like it, but chances are your bully has low self-esteem, is depressed or is bullied at home. Because of that, he or she feels the need to take it out on others.

Why They're Bullying You

If you’re a happy person, your bully may want to bring you down a peg. He or she may use any excuse to tease you even if it’s not warranted, just to make you feel bad about yourself. But sometimes the things that a bully teases you about are the very things that the bully envies. And other times, bullies are just trying to look cool in front of their friends.

Don't Let Them Get to You

Next time you’re bullied remember that he or she is just trying to get a reaction out of you. If you can shrug it off likes it’s nothing or even laugh, eventually your bully will get bored and leave you alone. If that doesn't work, or the bullying escalates, you may need to confide in an adult you trust.

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"Delancey" wrote:I'm sorry to hear this , but I think you should talk with your teachers. It's really annoying, and I guess you shouldn't care for whatever they say. You're pretty, you're beautiful in your own way. Um, I guess you should talk with teachers/adults about it and I know it'll be tough for you, but ignore what they say and just be you!  
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Delancey
Delancey posted in Friends:
I'm sorry to hear this , but I think you should talk with your teachers. It's really annoying, and I guess you shouldn't care for whatever they say. You're pretty, you're beautiful in your own way. Um, I guess you should talk with teachers/adults about it and I know it'll be tough for you, but ignore what they say and just be you!
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Gamer_GTA
Gamer_GTA posted in Friends:
throughout school I have always been picked on weither it be because of my interests or just my personality. In middle school I was called ####### everyday by all the guys in my grade. One of my teachers even bullied me and my mom never believed me because my teacher was so nice to her... I ended up crying on the 3rd day of my freshman year because the kids in my class were so mean to me... I'm gonna be a sophomore in highschool this year and I really don't want to go back to school because I'm afraid that it will be a repeat of freshman year... I need advice on how to make the best of the rest of school if I have to deal with the people that bully me...
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PinkaLicous123
PinkaLicous123 posted in Friends:
Like my sisters says Give him a hard time and if he cant handle it then he's NOT worth it..... your welcome.
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hugebear posted in Friends:
Shares their chips with you :)
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