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Dear Dish-It: My Mom Wants Me To Diet

Dear Dish-it,

Recently, my mom has decided that I need to go on a diet. She is always telling me to stop eating so much rubbish and to get more exercise. I'm not overweight, but I've taken a real hit on my self confidence and I can't help comparing myself to my mates who are really skinny. What can I do?

Unhappy

Dear Unhappy,

My mom did the exact same thing to me when I was younger. At the time, I thought she was cruel, but now I see it was all to help me prevent an unhealthy life. The eating habits you develop now will likely carry on into adulthood. So if you can train yourself to turn to healthy snacks like fruits and vegetables rather than sweets or high sodium foods, it’ll be much easier to maintain a healthy weight as you get older.

Benefits of Healthy Living

You’re mom’s also right about getting more exercise. Kids and adolescents need about one hour of physical activity each day to stay healthy. Getting exercise and eating right will help you in more ways than you realize. Not only will it help you to maintain a healthy body weight, but it will also increase your energy, and improve your mood, concentration and memory. The overall effect will boost your self-confidence.

Different Body Types

Try not to compare yourself to your friends. Remember, everyone has a different body type. Some people naturally have a leaner frame than others, and some have a faster metabolism. Just focus on yourself. Don’t try to “get skinny.” Take it from me, that won’t make you any happier in the long run. Instead, focus on being healthy.

Lifestyle Change

Don’t think of this as a diet; that will only hurt your self-esteem and cause your weight to fluctuate. Instead, think of it as a lifestyle change. Changing your eating habits for a little while will only help you for, well, a little while! You have to change them for life. But also don’t deprive yourself. It’s okay to have a treat every once in a while as long as that doesn’t cause you to overeat.  

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fluttershy500

fluttershy500 wrote:

i have some one living with me and we can only eat glutien food with her in the house ...
commented: Thu May 01, 2014

bluemusic

bluemusic wrote:

do some sports eat an apple drink water and on eat junk food like 3 times a week
commented: Sun Dec 29, 2013

donteatcarrots
Just get up and start moving. Even going with your friends to the town or going to the...
commented: Sun Jun 30, 2013

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InternetOwl
What part of it are you scared of? Is it eating in public and around other people, or just eating in general?  What it might be, if it's eating in public you don't like, is social anxiety, or social phobia. You should ask your doctor to check, because if it is, they can offer you ways to help. For instance, they might recommend therapists or group sessions to help ease your fear.  Even if it's just a phobia or, in unlikelier circumstances, an eating disorder, you should still go to your doctor or a therapist so you can try to overcome it. Try doing things that calm you down before these situations as well, like exercise, reading or listening to music (I'm not sure what relaxes you but sometimes these help). Also, you should try to slowly get used to the situations. So don't force yourself to eat straight away when you're out, but slowly start doing so whenever your comfortable with doing so. Unlike your mum wants, you can't just "stop" being scared because that's not how it works.  But right now, please don't force yourself into any of these situations. It's not good for your mental health to be forced to face a phobia of yours often. 
reply about 2 hours
ElfyKathy
Dear Dish-It, Within the last few years I have felt a bit sick and shaky when we go out to eat. It's not so bad when it's a carvery lunch or something at a pub, but settling down for a chocolate brownie and a milkshake shakes me up. Don't get me wrong, I love going out with Mum, but it's just sitting down and taking a bite. I want to chuck it in the bin. I love eating brownies and stuff at home and I'm pretty healthy. But I refuse to go to the town before lunch in fear. Mum told me I got to stop this or I'm going to develop a terrible phobia.  Please help! ElfyKathy, worried
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NianiNaturallyNerdy3
She isn't jealous she is just dissappointed that you chose to get lessons when she did to get better . She had to get better to catch up to you so you can enjoyher as your best friend. Then you went ahead and got lessons as if you needed them. She is just upset that you showed off a talent that she didn't have. And she tried to get better to impress you but you got better as well. Which kept her at the stage she will always be at my best friend sings way betyer than me but I try. 
reply about 3 hours
NianiNaturallyNerdy3
It may be hard but break it down to them we aren't friends but we can be associates. It may leave them a bit dissappointed but tell them we aren't in the same category to be as close as friends. 
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