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Dear Dish-It, My Parents Just Won't Listen!


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dish-It gets a ton of letters from you peeps about sex and, although she's here to answer any of your questions, she thinks a lot of you need to stop worrying so much about it. You've got your whole life ahead of ya - you don't need to be rushing into sexual relationships and risking pregnancy and disease just to say you've done it. Kidzworld's received some positive feedback on this topic from one of our members, so take a look at what she's got to say!


Dear Dish-It,

I can't believe there are so many children (yes that's what you are - children,) writing that they want to have sex. Honestly, what has happened to the youth of America? I'm 14 and I'm picky about who I even have a crush on. Plus, everyone preaches "safe sex." There's no such thing! Even if you use condoms there's still a chance of getting pregnant. It's amazing that so many people think that they're old enough. Whatever happened to abstinence? For those of you who have never heard of it, abstinence is waiting until you're married to have sex. Sex is supposed to be a very sacred thing that happens between two people, and it should only happen in a marriage. I'm not trying to sound like a nun, but it's the truth. If religious reasons aren't enough, do you really want to risk your life for a little fun and games? Sounds like you need help. I'm serious. No one should "need" sex. Especially when there's a chance of disease and pregnancy. Please, do us all a favor and talk to someone - a parent, teacher or guidance counselor. At least do it for the sake of your unborn children. I'd be ashamed to have a mother only 12 years older than me.
Binx


Click here to read What's Goin' On With My Body?, the article Binx is responding to.


Dear Dish-It,

I am a 14 year-old guy and I feel I can make my own decisions. I have had long hair ever since 7th grade and my dad HATES it. He makes fun of me about it and a few weeks ago, he made me cut it very short. I really don't like my new hairstyle but I have to pretend, or else my dad gets mad. I always wear a hat or a beanie or I'm walking around, constantly fixing my hair. I know hair will grow back but when it does, my dad's just gonna make me cut it. How can I convince him that I should be able to look however I want? Please help me. My hair problems are really driving me nuts.
I want long hair


Dear Dish-It,

My mom and I always argue. We argue about school, clothes, grades, my siblings, and other things. Almost every time we argue, it turns into a huge fight. Do you have any advice to help me?
ferie27


Click here to find out what advice Dish-It has for these Kidzworld members!


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    rainbowpoptart
    Goodness... I see where your mother is coming from: if you eat too much, no matter how healthy the food is, and don't work off the calories, you're going to gain weight. But she's being very obsessive and dramatic about it. There is nothing wrong with eating pizza or a cookie every now and then, and there's nothing wrong with relaxing from time to time either. As long as you aren't constantly eating junk and not burning the calories, then you do not have a problem. Eating unhealthy things every now and then does not make you fat. EATING every now and then does not make you fat. Try explaining this to her, calmly and patiently. Tell her that you don't want to be forced to do all of this exercising - being forced to exercise makes it a lot less interesting. Do not take "This is for your own good" for an answer; if you do not want to do it, it is NOT for your good. (This, of course, would be a different story if you were actually fat.) ALSO tell her that exercising too much and not satiating your cravings is JUST AS UNHEALTHY AS BEING FAT IS. If you were to not eat healthful meals and not snack every now and then, no matter how healthy or unhealthy the food is, plus exercise so frequently, you would not be healthy. Ā Eating is good for you, even if the food isn't. Eating too little and eating too much is not healthy. Exercise is good for you. Not exercising enough and exercising too much is not good for you. If you talking to her doesn't help, try telling another adult how you feel, and maybe they can help get it through to her. Regardless of what happens, take care of yourself. Moderate how much you eat, but don't limit yourself to less than you feel you need. Exercise, but don't do something you don't want to; working out should be fun. Good luck with everything. I'm really sorry that she makes you feel so badly about this.
    reply about 23 hours
    jake495
    jake495 posted in Family Issues:
    Make sure she knows its your body not hers In a respectful way of course
    reply about 24 hours
    ThePaleWalker636
    I'm perfectly happy with myself. I'm around 5'6" and somewhere between 140-150 pounds, and I don't feel fat. But my mom is constantly telling me that I am, or, at least, that I'm going to be. She forces me to go to exercise classes because I don't like many sports, tries making me go on diets, but I don't want to. She tells me that if I continue the way I am, having an extra cookie once in a while and only eating cereal for breakfast, that I'll end up fat, and she makes sure to emphasize how horrible that is for a person to live with. She rolls her eyes and sighs whenever she sees me getting a snack, and just in general makes me feel awful for eating the things I like and for relaxing. I've told her that I don't want to do these things and that she makes me feel bad when she says things like that, but she swears it's for my own good and that I should never want to be fat, that it ruins people's lives. How should I deal with this?
    reply 1 day
    drowning
    drowning posted in Friends:
    "NS12" wrote: I meet this guy at a festival and we have been talking for the whole week and my mum has noticed I keep texting someone and I know I need to tell her but I don t know how I am going to tell her, I doubt she ll get angry or anything but he lives about 4/5 hours away from me. I know I need to tell her as I don t like keeping secrets from her. I know this was a bit ago, but I truly hope that you were able to be open with your mother. If you feel as if they won't get mad at you, then chances are that your guardian will not. Honesty is the best policy, and if you feel guilt keeping a secret, then it is one you probably shouldn't be keeping.
    reply 2 days
    drowning
    I agree with @rainbowpoptart. You really shouldn't worry about relationships that much given your age. I promise, they're better things to worry about than boys and more secure romances occur later on in life anyways. But, given the situation, you shouldn't worry about either. The boy is unfaithful and so is your friend. If your best friend really valued your friendship, she would not have put it in a position that could end it. Don't waste your time on those who will not put you first just as you do for them; better people will come into your life and they are the ones who you should really worry about.
    reply 2 days