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Dear Dish-It, My Parents Just Won't Listen!


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dish-It gets a ton of letters from you peeps about sex and, although she's here to answer any of your questions, she thinks a lot of you need to stop worrying so much about it. You've got your whole life ahead of ya - you don't need to be rushing into sexual relationships and risking pregnancy and disease just to say you've done it. Kidzworld's received some positive feedback on this topic from one of our members, so take a look at what she's got to say!


Dear Dish-It,

I can't believe there are so many children (yes that's what you are - children,) writing that they want to have sex. Honestly, what has happened to the youth of America? I'm 14 and I'm picky about who I even have a crush on. Plus, everyone preaches "safe sex." There's no such thing! Even if you use condoms there's still a chance of getting pregnant. It's amazing that so many people think that they're old enough. Whatever happened to abstinence? For those of you who have never heard of it, abstinence is waiting until you're married to have sex. Sex is supposed to be a very sacred thing that happens between two people, and it should only happen in a marriage. I'm not trying to sound like a nun, but it's the truth. If religious reasons aren't enough, do you really want to risk your life for a little fun and games? Sounds like you need help. I'm serious. No one should "need" sex. Especially when there's a chance of disease and pregnancy. Please, do us all a favor and talk to someone - a parent, teacher or guidance counselor. At least do it for the sake of your unborn children. I'd be ashamed to have a mother only 12 years older than me.
Binx


Click here to read What's Goin' On With My Body?, the article Binx is responding to.


Dear Dish-It,

I am a 14 year-old guy and I feel I can make my own decisions. I have had long hair ever since 7th grade and my dad HATES it. He makes fun of me about it and a few weeks ago, he made me cut it very short. I really don't like my new hairstyle but I have to pretend, or else my dad gets mad. I always wear a hat or a beanie or I'm walking around, constantly fixing my hair. I know hair will grow back but when it does, my dad's just gonna make me cut it. How can I convince him that I should be able to look however I want? Please help me. My hair problems are really driving me nuts.
I want long hair


Dear Dish-It,

My mom and I always argue. We argue about school, clothes, grades, my siblings, and other things. Almost every time we argue, it turns into a huge fight. Do you have any advice to help me?
ferie27


Click here to find out what advice Dish-It has for these Kidzworld members!


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    astucieuse331
    astucieuse331 posted in Friends:
    I've always felt the same way. My one best friend gossiped behind my back, used me, all that girl stuff. She took me for advantage and we had a bunch of fights because of her finding a new friend and completely acting as if I didn't exist, and I told her to give me at least some attention every once in a while if she can't even continue to talk to me daily. And.. I lost her. Well, she lost me. We both lost each other. But then I realized.. it's the people that you least expect to be nice to you you'll find kindness in. Why? Based on personal experience, and I'll tell you the story: For my gym class, me and my peers were supposed to make a group for a dance. This was when my best friend had found a new friend already, and the time at which we had a few fights because of that. Of course, I relied on my best friend to count me in her dance group. At lunchtime, I sat together with my best friend, and we ate our lunches in silence. All of a sudden, I brought up the dance groups and asked her straightforwardly: "Can I join your group?" No reply. "Kelly, can I join your group?" No reply. "I mean, since our class is uneven, I found it fair that there'd be a group of five, you know?" None at all. Kelly ignored me straight off the bat, leaving me speechless. My mind raced with thoughts, and I thought, maybe it's not worth having Kelly as a friend. A few days later, we were playing Dodgeball for gym. I was on Kelly's team, and overheard her talking with her new friends about who to pick for the dance group. One of her friends mentioned me, and Kelly said: "Oh no, we shouldn't pick her because _____ (I don't know what she said then)." I was shocked, but was anticipating it, so when the time came to choose groups, I saw my friend, Luke, ask two girls, Cher and Bridgette, to join their group. Surprisingly, Cher and Bridgette actually accepted him, and so I thought, "Wow, if they accepted Luke, they might accept me aswell!" and so built up the courage to ask them if I could join. Even though Cher and Bridgette were mean to me sometimes, I knew that I had to risk it and see what'd happen. Afterall, rejection is just another opportunity to find a better group. Little did I know, it'd be the best choice of my life. They were so happy, and even thanked me for joining them! I was speechless once more; I never knew that the peers that I thought I would never be friends with would actually be my friends!  So yeah, that's what I learnt, and I never regretted learning that fact. Ever since then, though, I've learnt not to trust people as much as I used to anymore. I learnt that independency is what works for me, what I was meant for in terms of socializing or working. But, other things may work for you. If you still want a friend, you can be independent and wait for the right person. However, if you still want a real friend, you can wait, but still mingle (hang out) with other people! I I'm not going to make fun of you because I know how you've felt, just as I stated in my past problem before. But you can move on from those friends, they're not worth your time and certainly don't deserve you as a friend. Trust me, if it's meant to be, you'll definitely find a true friend. But if it's not, you may become like me, finding happiness in my own way. I want to remind you though-- you don't need someone to stay happy, or keep you company. This may sound silly, but you can even have your own invisible friends! I've had one, but that's very rarely for me. It's not silly though if you see the general idea; usually these friends are made from different dimensions of your personality or just because of will. There's a lot more fish in the sea, though, so I'm sure you'll find a true friend that's meant for you  :) Take care, and I hope you'll find a true friend soon!
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    ts01
    ts01 posted in Friends:
    im so sorry you girls feel that way.true friends are there, its just easier to find users because they are more plentiful. dont give up, you will find real friends eventually
    reply about 15 hours
    lolflowergirl
    lolflowergirl posted in Friends:
    i feel alone too
    reply about 17 hours
    kayme123
    kayme123 posted in Friends:
    i know the feeling. but i got taken off a website instead of my friends. i can assure you they probably feel the same and are missing you, BUT its not worth dwelling over it. friends come and go without any choice in life and trust me, i lost the love of my life and my two of the best friends in the world. The thing is, you have to move on, because they wouldent want you feeling sad over them right? they'd want you to be the happy person you were when you were with them! for starters, i'll be your friend so your not scared to make some new ones. To be honest, i went through the exact same thing as you did and it DOES hurt very bad. But once you find some people that are willing to make you feel better, you know you've chosen the right friends again
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    Irene_love
    Irene_love posted in Style:
    "1.am.3m0" wrote:Hey. Im also turning 15 soon. So dont worry you arent alone hahah. Start dressing for your shape and also find whats comfortable.  Because if you wear something that is uncomfortable you wont be happy and happiness is the best look :) Most of the time I wear jeans with a graphic tshirt or singlet and a cardigan or light jacket. Hoodies are great for winter. And I wear combat boots like doc martins and converse. Hope I helped somehow! :)
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