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Dear Dish-It, My Parents Just Won't Listen!


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dish-It gets a ton of letters from you peeps about sex and, although she's here to answer any of your questions, she thinks a lot of you need to stop worrying so much about it. You've got your whole life ahead of ya - you don't need to be rushing into sexual relationships and risking pregnancy and disease just to say you've done it. Kidzworld's received some positive feedback on this topic from one of our members, so take a look at what she's got to say!


Dear Dish-It,

I can't believe there are so many children (yes that's what you are - children,) writing that they want to have sex. Honestly, what has happened to the youth of America? I'm 14 and I'm picky about who I even have a crush on. Plus, everyone preaches "safe sex." There's no such thing! Even if you use condoms there's still a chance of getting pregnant. It's amazing that so many people think that they're old enough. Whatever happened to abstinence? For those of you who have never heard of it, abstinence is waiting until you're married to have sex. Sex is supposed to be a very sacred thing that happens between two people, and it should only happen in a marriage. I'm not trying to sound like a nun, but it's the truth. If religious reasons aren't enough, do you really want to risk your life for a little fun and games? Sounds like you need help. I'm serious. No one should "need" sex. Especially when there's a chance of disease and pregnancy. Please, do us all a favor and talk to someone - a parent, teacher or guidance counselor. At least do it for the sake of your unborn children. I'd be ashamed to have a mother only 12 years older than me.
Binx


Click here to read What's Goin' On With My Body?, the article Binx is responding to.


Dear Dish-It,

I am a 14 year-old guy and I feel I can make my own decisions. I have had long hair ever since 7th grade and my dad HATES it. He makes fun of me about it and a few weeks ago, he made me cut it very short. I really don't like my new hairstyle but I have to pretend, or else my dad gets mad. I always wear a hat or a beanie or I'm walking around, constantly fixing my hair. I know hair will grow back but when it does, my dad's just gonna make me cut it. How can I convince him that I should be able to look however I want? Please help me. My hair problems are really driving me nuts.
I want long hair


Dear Dish-It,

My mom and I always argue. We argue about school, clothes, grades, my siblings, and other things. Almost every time we argue, it turns into a huge fight. Do you have any advice to help me?
ferie27


Click here to find out what advice Dish-It has for these Kidzworld members!


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    lelnah posted in Friends:
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    Hannah728 posted in Friends:
    Ok i have the same problem with every guy! I have a crush on the cutest guy and i think somebody else likes him! And i mean like for sure think that they like him!
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    classicalmusicisepic
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    shae508
    shae508 posted in Friends:
    "classicalmusicisepic" wrote:my friends offline are having some relationship problems atm and there are just some things i want to mention on here, because i think they're relevant; some warning signs, etc and how to approach them.these not only apply to romantic relationships, but also friendships etc.physical harm - this might be an obvious one. but i just want to share some ways to approach the situation. this includes unwanted touching, hitting, kicking, etc. if your partner is doing this to you, you must report it to a trusted adult, teacher, counselor, close friend, or family member. this is one of the most serious abusive relationships- there are many resources online such as childline, etc, and hotlines you can call if you need to speak to someone about it. they may be able to help you get out of the relationship, and give you a shoulder to cry on.pressure into unwanted intimacy - this is also one of the big ones- your partner should never make you feel uncomfortable or otherwise. if they wish to stay with you, they will wait until you're ready to move onto that stage; if you even ever will be. if you feel pressured, or pushed into doing something you feel you'll regret, sit down and talk about it with your partner. you have a say in your relationship, too.control over your friends - if you feel like your partner has control over your friends- something is wrong. if they want you to dedicate every second of your life to them, with no other people, it's not right. your relationship not only affects the two people in it, (or more if it's polyamourous), but everyone around is affected by your relationship, too. again- you have a say in how your relationship is going, too!  criticizing you and your choices - relationships are about liking each other- if your partner is putting you down or demeaning you, it's a warning sign to get out of it. are they mocking you? or putting down your appearance, clothes, etc? Definite red flag; talk about it with him/her/them. other signs, include:-being doted and adored one day, and the next being pushed away and ignored,-you're afraid of your partner-they obsess over and call/text you constantly-you may find you've lost your confidence-many ups and downs in the relationship, constant roller coaster-you aren't yourself. you change and adapt for them, drop hobbies if they're not into them, etc.-something tells you you cant trust themagain, there are many resources out there if you need to talk. never be afraid to speak about it to someone- a family member, a teacher, a close friend, the police, a guidance counselor, etc.  I bolded that one part. The whole thread is great. And that one is a sign. But remember people with mental illness may also show signs like this to. If they have a good they they may spoil you and love you, and then the next day they're having a bad one. So they might push you away. They also may suddenly dote on you one day also to make up for a bad day. I'm not making an excuse, it's still a ver bad thing to do. I'm just putting it out there.
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    jordand08
    jordand08 posted in Friends:
    No problem!
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