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Dear Dish-It, Why Haven't I Made My Move?

Dear Dish-It,

I have a boyfriend and I like him a lot. He recently told me that he loved me but I'm not sure that I should tell him that I love him back. I do, but if I tell him, he might want to get too serious and want to have sex with me and I'm not ready for all that. What should I do?
laquisha


Dear laquisha,

If you're not comfortable telling your BF that you love him, then you shouldn't. You also shouldn't think that if you tell him you love him you are committed to take your relationship to the next level. You're really young and it sounds like you know what your priorities are right now. Sex is a huge thing and shouldn't be something you are pressured into doing. Talk to your BF about your feelings. Let him know that you care about him a lot but that you aren't ready for something super-serious. If he's being honest about being in love with you, he'll understand. But, if he's using the "I love you" line to get you to take things a step further, he's not the kind of guy you should be with.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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