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Dear Dish-It, I Don't Want to Be Dumb


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

My school has four different teams: purple, magenta, crimson and gold. Gold being the smart, straight-A students and purple being the slackers and basically dumb people. Well, I got my class schedule and it said I'm on the purple team. Now, I knew I wouldn't be in gold but I thought I might at least be in magenta! Now that I know I'm in the slackers group, I feel really stupid and I'm mad at myself thinking I could do much better. I got decent grades last year, A's and B's and 1 C+ in math. I was known as a blonde last year cuz I didn't get things right off but now I feel like a total idiot! I'm going into 8th grade, my last year of middle school and I don't want to be on the purple team! All of my friends got almost all the same grades as me, maybe a B- in math though, yet they are in magenta or crimson. What can I do? I mean, should I talk to the school or try to study really hard and show them that I'm not dumb?! What can I do to make myself happy again?! I feel like crying! I don't want to be dumb!
:(_Breck_):


Dear :(_Breck_):,

You are not dumb! Repeat that over and over until it really sinks in. You've been thrown into a school that has a really messed up way of evaluating its students. It is not cool to group people into the Smart team or the Dumb team. Not only is it completely unfair, it lowers people's self-esteem at a time when it's already a struggle to fit in and feel confident about yourself. I think you should sit down with your parents and let them know what's going on and how it is making you feel. Get them to talk to your principal and if nothing changes after that, take your complaint to your school board. This is not something that you are overreacting about - it is making for a divided school where students are made to feel worthless. Don't let some stuffy adult toss you into a group and label you. You have just as much potential as all the rest of your classmates and you should be given all the same opportunities. Make your voice heard because you can make a difference! Good Luck.


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    donteatcarrots
    donteatcarrots posted in Style:
    lisp or not, i'm sure you're a nice person. i don't even know if you can get rid of this lisp- maybe practice speaking at home, try different movements with your lips or mouth, i don't know. don't let a lisp make you less confident, that doesn't change anything about you as a person. be yourself and be confident.
    reply 1 day
    Ezma
    Ezma posted in Style:
    Dear Dish it, Im already a grown teen but I don't think I am that easy to get along whem meeting new friends in school. And I think its because I lose my confidence cause I got some speech defect which called lisp. I often sometimes looks weird when theyre talking to me and It really affects me. What should I do? I have read and tried all the practice and therapy I read in the internet for a year but it doesnt make a change. I hope you help me
    reply 1 day
    inkdeath
    inkdeath posted in Family Issues:
    I always remind myself with this quote:This too, shall pass. 
    reply 2 days
    Cupcakesss123
    I think your parents dont want u to be crazy like your friends n your friends arent bad so i guess u should talk to your friends parents over phone or sum n let them meet your parents :D 
    reply 2 days
    donteatcarrots
    you really need to have a proper chat with your parents. you're doing really well in school, and seem to have a good set of friends, and tell them that you should be able to go out, i mean you've done nothing wrong and surely should be allowed a little freedom in return?
    reply 2 days