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Dear Dish-It, I Found My Brother's Cigarettes

Dear Dish-It,

I saw some cigarettes in my older bro's car and I don't know if he's smoking them and I don't know how to tell my parents or if I should tell them.
to tell or not to tell


Dear to tell or not to tell,

Okay, so your discovery puts you in a bit of an awkward situation - it's understandable that you don't want your bro to smoke but unfortunately it's not really up to you to decide. No one likes to be ratted out, especially by their own sister. If you are concerned about whether your brother is smoking or not, you should probably go and talk to him. Tell him what you saw, and let him know that it makes you uncomfortable to have to keep that secret from your parents. Although it's natural to look up to an older sibling, it's also important to remember that nobody's perfect and we all make mistakes. So, instead of running to your parents and stirring up trouble, why not sit down and chat with your brother.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share, We'll dish 'em up, too.

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Tati-00
Tati-00 posted in Family Issues:
I would also talk to them and tell them how you feel. If they still say they are signing you up for the membership as a 13 year old and it scares you that much I would just tell them to leave you off the membership until you do turn 13.
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Tati-00
Tati-00 posted in Family Issues:
I think every house has some drama going on in it everyday. In my house my Mom is a divorced mother of 3 kids. My older sister is away at college but when she was here there were yelling matches between my mom and her about staying out too late and getting a speeding ticket. Also with my mom being the only one raising us she has to work full time leaving me to watch my little brother who is 10 after he gets home from school. There also can be some battles that go on there and my mom doesn't want to here it from me or him when she walks through the door after work. I just try to not make it all personal and chalk it up to the stress of everyday life.
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american_brit
"Tati-00" wrote:I would tell your mother no. I mean she shouldn't be like a dictator and force it on you. I hardly wear any make-up and my mom loves that.
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Tati-00
Tati-00 posted in Family Issues:
I would tell your mother No. I mean she shouldn't be like a dictator and force it on you. I hardly wear any make-up and my mom loves that.
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american_brit
Hey! Yeah, I'm also one of those girls who doesn't wear makeup either... maybe on a rare occasion? Or if pestered into it.  I definitely understand where you're coming from with this. My mom doesn't exactly try to get me to wear it, but is she did, I wouldn't be to happy out this either. Don't feel bad. You're beautiful no matter what; makeup doesn't  define you -unless, of course you let it...  She probably wants you to feel "more grown up,"  or thinks it's nice for a "young lady," or that'll "boost your confidence." I don't know, there could be plenty of reasons.  If you feel uncomfortable the best thing to do would be to talk to her about it. Respectfully tell how you really feel and make sure she's listening. 
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