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Dear Dish-It,

I'm 15 and a sophomore. I took one of my friends to homecoming this year. She really wanted to go and I was reluctant... I'm not really good with formal dances and entertaining girls I guess. Now she's upset and won't even talk to me anymore. What have I done? How can I fix the problem and be friends again? NEED HELP ASAP!
tripleJ


Dear tripleJ,

You're not giving me a whole lot of details to go on about this date of yours, so it's hard to say why your friend might be mad at you. By the sounds of it though, this girl has probably been crushin' on you for a long time and was super stoked when you agreed to go to homecoming with her. How did you act once you got to the dance? Did you ditch her to hang out with your friends? Did you dance with her at all while you were there? Girls can be hard to figure out sometimes, but a good rule to follow is that girls like attention - especially from boys. They need you to make a bit of an effort to let them know how you feel about them. It's not about "entertaining" a girl, it's about being interested in what they say, who they hang out with and things they do. Talk to your friend and ask her what's up. Chances are she won't be really eager to spill her guts, but just asking her will make her feel like you care. If she did have a crush on you, she might be taking it kind of hard that you didn't like her back - but, given a little bit of time, she'll get over it and you guys can go back to being good friends.


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