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Dear Dish-It,

My best friend and I are getting ready to go back to school in a few weeks, but we are nervous about seeing some old friends of ours. There was a time when we were all very good friends, but they started hanging around with other girls who were thought of as cooler than us. They make us feel very low and talk about us behind our backs. We are both nervous about this and want to find a way to ignore them. Can you help us?
Mills


Dear Mills,

One of the hardest parts of high school is growing apart from your childhood friends. It happens to all of us at some point but it always comes as a shock. Things get even uglier when your old friends decide to torment you in order to secure newer, cooler friends. But, the best way to deal with these kinds of situations isn't to fight fire with fire, but instead, just let it roll off your back. If your old friends have claimed the cafeteria as their new turf, avoid hanging out in the cafeteria when they're around. Ignoring these girls is going to be hard at first because they might be unusually cruel. However, after a while, they'll get tired of not getting results from their taunting and move on to their next victim (cuz with kids like that, they always need to make fun of others to make themselves feel better). You and your best friend should also look to make new friends this year. There are bound to be some cool peeps at your school that you may not have had the chance to get to know because your old friends were holding you back. Take control of your social scene and don't let those immature babies bring you down! Hope this helps.


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    hey its lexi

    hey its lexi wrote:

    since they moved a fews weeks ago i miss them
    commented: Fri Aug 05, 2011

    hey its lexi

    hey its lexi wrote:

    i was friends with this kids next to more for ever the we had a agrement BUT now sinc...
    commented: Fri Aug 05, 2011

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