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Dear Dish-It, I'm Nervous About My First Kiss


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Dear Dish-It,

Ok, I've had a lot of boyfriends, but I have never actually kissed one before. I'm scared that I'll get nervous when it finally does happen. My face gets red when I'm embarrassed and my hands will probably get sweaty and I don't wanna make a fool of myself. But I can never help it. And I'm totally fine with it, but all this stuff just happens... is there anything I can do? Thanks.
ahhhh


Dear ahhhh,

First, take a nice deep breath. There's no reason to stress over something that hasn't happened yet and you don't really know when it's going to happen either. A first kiss is something that you usually don't plan - it just happens at the right time. I know that's a really lame answer, but it's true. If you try and plan something like your first kiss then of course you are going to be nervous and sweaty. But if you just go with the flow and let things take their course, chances are that kiss is going to come when you absolutely least expect it - you won't have time to get embarrassed. And you know what? Even if you are nervous, that's ok. Being a bit nervous is totally natural and we all get those butterflies in our stomach before going in for that big first smooch. Hope this helps!


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