Dear Dish-It, Why Don't Girls Treat Me Right?

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Dear Dish-It,

This is going to sound really weird but I think a GUY at school likes me, (I'm a guy.) I'm straight but this kid seems pretty gay and he's been staring at me all the time. When we went out in the hall to study for a quiz he was really nice to me and kept looking at me and smiling. He also looks at me and raises his eyebrows and tries to make me laugh and stuff. Please HELP! I don't want to tell him I'm straight because if he doesn't like me like that, it would be really embarrassing for him and me. Two girls in my class even saw him checking me out when I was leaning on the floor doing a project and you could see my boxers because my shirt was up a little and they said he was checking me out! HELP! NOW!
In a bind

Dear In a bind,

Ok, this is going to sound really weird but you've gotta chill out. It sounds like you're making a mountain outta a mole hill and someone is definitely going to be embarrassed if you keep carrying on like a fool, (most likely it will be you!) Just because some girls have confirmed your suspicions about this dude, doesn't mean you have to go blowing things out of proportion. If this guy does like you, you're not going to die. Instead of freaking out about the attention you are getting, be flattered by the obvious compliment. There is no need for you to go confronting this guy about his feelings. He will most likely never talk to you about them. And in the event that he does like you and makes a move, just say thanks, but I'm not interested. And both of you should be able to walk away with your dignity intact.

Dear Dish-It,

Ever since I can remember, I have had a girlfriend who always hurt me. I would understand if I was a jerk to them or treated them bad, but I am actually the best and sweetest guy a girl could ever have. But now, once again, I find myself with a girl that I really like but who hurts me all the time. Right now, as I write this, I am arguing with her. I really like her but it's like she doesn't care about me and she always hurts me. What should I do to change my love life disaster and all the pain I go through?
Lonely Pain

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    EndlessDream posted in Friends:
    Hmmm....Then she mustn't be necessarily "using" you, if she is not getting something in return ( As far as we know of). However, It does sound like she is being extremely unfair. That just might be how she is. Not exactly loyal to anyone. Well, try to talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. And, if it doesn't work out, then she might not be a great friend to hang around with, and maybe you will find someone else who enjoys your company. I hope this helps, and good luck :)
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    XxIHateMathxX posted in Friends:
    No not really. Like I said, one minute she's all smiley and then she doesn't even look at me. Most of the time I see her with Daniela and Andrea. Today she was asking me if I was going to hang out with her, Daniela, Andrea and Luisa during recess. When I told her that I was 'going to have to think' she was like, "Whatever." and ran off to catch up with the Threesome. Thanks. :)
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    EndlessDream posted in Friends:
    Is she asking you to do things for her? Like help with homework, carry her books and so on?
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