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Dear Dish-It, My Mom Embarrasses Me!

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Advice About Puberty

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Dear Dish-It,

My mom is so embarrassing when it comes to puberty. Even when I got my first bra she was so fussy and told the whole street. I mean, it's not as if she's old or anything, I'm 13 and she's 38, but now I'm too embarrassed to wear a bra. I'm absolutely petrified of when I start my period - she will embarrass me to bits. She's already saying all this stuff about us being the "ladies of the house" and I will be too scared to tell her when I start my period. It would be great if I had an older sister, then my mom might not be so embarrassing about it. It's like she's excited about me starting puberty! No one else I've spoke to seems to have the same problem and I'm even scared to shave my legs in case she sees me and gets embarrassing again! Please, please, please help!
tinerbex13


Dear tinerbex13,

Your friends may not have encountered the same reactions from their moms about puberty, but that doesn't mean you're alone. Your mom's "embarrassing" actions are just her way of showing her love. Puberty can be a scary and embarrassing time in your life, but for your mom it means that you're not a little girl anymore. Most likely, she remembers going through puberty as a really exciting time in her life so she is naturally excited for you to experience the same things. Although you may not want her to run up and down the block telling all the neighbors about your new bra, it is much better to have a mom who is open and honest about all this stuff.


Puberty is not something to be ashamed of - all women have to go through it at some point in their lives so you may as well embrace it. You're not going to ward it off by not wearing a bra or withholding information from your mom. Just accept that you've hit that point in your life and make the best of it. Most importantly, talk to your mom. Tell her that her over-the-top antics kind of embarrass you and try to figure out a way that she can talk to you about these things without you getting freaked out. Hope this helped - good luck!


Tell your mom to stop it. If it embarrasses you, then why are you writing it online if you dont want anyone to know? Tell your mom how you feel. Tell her that you can't stand it when she embarrasses you like that. Tell her that you know she is proud of you and that you respect her but she needs to hold some stuff in. My mom was the same way!

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    Disney_

    Disney_ wrote:

    Lmao well that sucks for you :'3
    commented: Fri Aug 08, 2014

    hutcherson92

    hutcherson92 wrote:

    I have that to baby cakes don't worry I've taken the advice you got back as well ;)
    commented: Mon Oct 21, 2013

    lovely2128

    lovely2128 wrote:

    its like she dose it on perpous she fix my eye brows,my hair & my clothes :(
    commented: Fri Nov 02, 2012

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