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Dear Dish-It, I Still Like Him but He Hates Me

Jan 15, 2007

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

Ok, so my BF broke up with me to go out with a freshman. I wouldn't have cared that much if he actually broke up with me to my face. But no, he called my best friend. He never told me why he broke up with me and I really want to know. I totally still like him, but it seems like he hates me. I'm friends with his sis and I come over and hang out outside. I end up staring at him the whole time.
con_flubbered


Dear con_flubbered,

It sucks lemons to get dumped. You wanna kick and scream at the person who broke your heart and then take comfort in a big bowl of rocky road ice cream. But it sucks twice as much if you don't know why you got dumped. In this case, it looks like your ex-BF met a new girl and wanted to be with her instead. Whatever the reason is, he should've talked to you in person rather than chicken out and tell your best friend to pass on the message. You have every right to know why your relationship ended, but it'll be hard to get any info out of him (once a chicken, always a chicken, right?). So try talking to his sister - she may have the inside scoop on her bro and help you gain a deeper understanding of the whole situation. It'll take awhile to get over your ex cuz your feelings aren't going to disappear overnight. But the good news is that your feelings for him will eventually fade and you'll start to feel better and maybe even wonder why in the world you dated him!


One more thing, con_flubbered - it's a bad idea, at least for now, to go over to your ex-BF's house to hang with his sister. Seeing him with his new girlfriend will just make things harder for you, so ask your friend to come over to your house if you wanna chill.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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