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Dear Dish-It, Guys Flirt With Me, but Never Ask Me Out!


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Dear Dish-It,

INEED a boyfriend! I'm totally beautiful and sweet. I have guys flirting with me, but they never ask me out! Please help!
Cute N Crazy


Dear Cute N Crazy,

Here's a horrible fact - it's always the prettiest girls who get the least amount of dates. Guys can be shy and intimidated just as easily as girls, and sometimes they think they don't stand a chance with the really pretty, fun girls cuz they figure those girls must be getting asked out a ton. If ya have too many guys thinking they don't have a chance with ya, you'll probably be the last to get asked out. Just keep thinkin' positive, playing it casual and giving little hints to the guys you like that you would date 'em if they asked. Oh yeah, and one more thing - you don't NEED a boyfriend. You NEED air to breathe and you NEED food to live, but you don't NEED a boyfriend. Guys aren't into dating girls who are needy, so you might not want to project that.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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