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Stay In Your Lane

Lately I've been getting tons of letters from members about boys, kissing and umm... sex. They all touch on the same thing - what is love? And what do I do when my boyfriend (or some guy) is pushing me to have sex?

Now, maybe because I was born centuries ago, the letters have surprised me. Cuz with girl-power and everything, I thought that girls would be harder with the fellas. You know, readin' them the riot act, not being pushed around or pressured and basically telling them where to go.

Well, chicks, are you? Do you ladies realize that what you do with your bodies and when you do it should be up to you? The push that these guys are giving is old (even I remember how it was.) Every school had the "fast girls" but "cool guys." The rumors would fly and you never really knew what was going on. Later I found out that nobody was getting much action, the boys just liked to talk.

Fast forward to now - sex is everywhere. It seems like "everybody's doing it, like on the discovery channel." Ha-Ha. You know what, it's not funny. It's not funny because for the first time, the nation's highest rate of rape is among teens. In 1998, there were almost 350,000 reported rapes and sexual assaults of victims 12 and older. That is more than double the rate for people 25 and older.

Girl-power then is not about how many tattoos or belly rings you have - or what cute guy you like and likes you. Girl-power is about understanding yourself and loving yourself, working hard at whatever you do and being able to SAY NO. In other words, stay in your own lane. You know when you're driving, you can't drift around. You have to be focused and know the rules.

What are your rules for staying in your lane? If you don't have enough maybe you need some. Check these out. Happy driving!

  • I will not get myself into situations involving drugs or alcohol.
  • I will focus on school and do my best.
  • I will not let boys or anybody force me to do something that I don't want to.
  • I will set goals for myself and make a plan to achieve them.
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HannahG
HannahG posted in Family Issues:
I agree with the person above ## #### ## # ##### ## # ##### ###### you should talk to a counselor or go to the police about the men.
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Hannah728
Hannah728 posted in Friends:
yes a lot
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lilymouse385
lilymouse385 posted in Friends:
In theory no one is perfect but.... The perfect friend will understand you even if you do get into fights and will stand up for you always And will stick by your side forever.
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Tati-00
Tati-00 posted in Family Issues:
The only advice I can tell you is to tell a School Counselor or Teacher. As for the Men I would report them to the Police.
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cool36
cool36 posted in Family Issues:
my mom punches me 4 no reason . And there r taking me away but i do not wanna go .Their making me go with my aunt but  she is alot worse she brings men we do not even know i the house and they  hurt me and try 2 get me in bed with them and she is always #####. What do I do? I am only 9 . Help please .  :( :( :( :( :( :( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( :sad :sad :sad :sad :sad 
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