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Dear Dish-It, My Parents Are Crazy


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

My mom does not listen to me, plus my dad is like crazy and does not live with me, so he can't help when my mom goes crazy. My grandmother wants to help, but she's not my real grandmother (she's not even my step) so no help from her. HELP ME...
Anonymous


Dear Anonymous,

You don't seem to realize that you already have help around you - your grandmother! You just said she wants to help! What, just cuz she's not your real grandmother, you can't accept help from her? Well, swallow your pride and stubbornness and whatever else that's preventing you from accepting her help and go talk to her already! Just cuz she's not related to you by blood or marriage doesn't mean she doesn't love you or isn't able to give you advice with your problems. By the way, what are your problems? You haven't told me any details, so it's kinda hard to help you through 'em. Like, what do you mean when you say your parents are crazy? Are you just sayin' they're crazy cuz they don't listen to you? Well, try listening to your parents for a change cuz they might just be right in some cases. Your parents are only trying to keep you safe and look out for your best interests. You may not agree with them all the time, but that's normal cuz we're kids and they're adults and we won't always see eye-to-eye with them. Try sitting down separately with your mom and grandmother to talk openly and sincerely about stuff that's upsetting you. And talk to your dad when he does come around the house, or call him to set up a time to meet and talk things through. You can also make an appointment to speak to your school counselor if you really feel like you just can't talk to your family members. Good luck, I hope things work out for you.


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