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Dear Dish-It, I'm Sick of My Parents Grounding Me


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Dear Dish-It,

I am 16 and am sick of my parents grounding me for no reason. I am the middle child and I feel like they love my youngest sister and my disabled sister more than they love me. I want to control my own life and I want more respect than what they give me. They said I am not responsible because I got drunk on my 16th birthday and they made me feel really guilty about it, like using it against me. Also they are now grounding me for no reason so that I don't go out and hang around with friends that my sisters don't have. I'm really fed up and am losing it. Help!
sk8r gurl


Dear sk8r gurl,

This may sound harsh, but your parents have every right to ground you - and it's for a very good reason. You can celebrate your 16th birthday in a lot of ways - eat 16 chocolate chip cookies, throw a backyard BBQ, or fly off to Disneyland to party it up with Mickey (that's what Scarlett Johansson did!) - but getting drunk isn't one of them. Alcohol is dangerous and puts your health at risk. Plus, it's illegal to drink alcohol until you're 21 in the US and 19 in Canada. That's why your parents are grounding you! For someone who wants more respect, you've been acting irresponsibly by drinking alcohol and getting drunk.


If you're seriously trying to get your parents to see that you're responsible, I doubt that getting mad and fed up at them is going to help your case. If you want to be treated with respect, you've got to earn it. Start by helping out with the chores and staying away from alcohol. Being the middle child can be pretty rough cuz the firstborn is the overachiever and the lastborn is the baby of the family, which makes the middle kid feel left out and ignored. But that doesn't mean your parents love you any less than your sisters. I think they just have to pay more attention to your younger sister cuz she's young, and they have to look after your other sister cuz she has a disability that requires extra care and attention. Help your parents out by looking after your sisters and pretty soon, they'll realize you're responsible and give you the freedom and respect that you deserve at your age.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    EndlessDream is right. Skipping breakfast and lunch can result in stomach ulcers and sudden weight gain (had personal experience...), ESPECIALLY skipping breakfast! You have to incorporate exercise in your daily routine. Stomach and body fat is mostly caused by lack of exercise, and maybe that means you need to do toning exercises. Try doing simple exercise videos like the 3-mile powerwalk on YouTube (trust me, I sweat like crazy when I do those workouts). Anything that gets you sweating, is the kind of exercise you need to do.  I hated working out when I first started my weight loss journey too. I would always start wheezing every time I started working out. But after pushing through everyday, I think working out is one of the best stress busters I've ever had!  If you want to lower your appetite though, I suggest eating a full lunch and breakfast and skipping your dinner. If you can't skip dinner, then at least try aiming for an early dinner, around 5:30 or 6:00. Your body needs time to digest at least 4 hours before you sleep. I started gaining weight around puberty when I was 12, it could be the same for you too.  But honestly, there's nothing wrong with having consciousness about your weight. Now starving yourself and dieting is BAD, but there's nothing wrong with changing your lifestyle in order to be fit. It's a good thing that kids start caring about their health, and the earlier you start, the better off you are. 
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    You need breakfast and lunch. Starving yourself, even if you aren't hungry, makes you loose energy to the point you could pass out from not eating. Keep your diet healthy. For breakfast, at least have yogurt, fruit, and juice. Drink at least 4 full glasses of water a day. Trim down on the snacks. Everyone has different bodies and build. You may just be large-boned. And that's not bad! That makes you stronger and higher ability to gain muscle. Loosing weight doesn't happen over night. It can take months. 
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    rainbowpoptart
    Yes, purely for the fact that you should not "hate" your sister (or anyone, for that matter).  I'm guessing by "get in trouble for her", you mean she does something wrong and the blame is all put on you? Yeah, little siblings tend to do that a lot. My brother did for the longest time, until my parents found out how much a liar he is. She, hopefully, will grow out of this eventually. Either that, or your parent[s]/guardian[s] will eventually see through her. You lose your friends to her? By this do you mean your friends want to hang out with her and they want you to tag along and you don't? Or do you mean your friends chose your sister over you? If it's the latter, then perhaps you shouldn't have ever referred to those people as friends. You'll find friends who'll prefer you over your sister, I'm sure of it. The only thing I can tell you to do is try to get along with your sister. Every group of siblings has their cats and dogs moment in life, but they grow out of it (most of the time; there are, of course, circumstances where it doesn't work out that way). Please be grateful for your sister, even if you two fight a lot. You never know how much you need something until it's gone.
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