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Dear Dish-It, I Like a Guy Who Dated My Best Friend

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Dear Dish-It,

I really like this guy and he likes me too, but he went out with my best friend. He said he wants to go out with me and I want to go out with him, but I don't know what to do. I need help!
Amy_03


Dear Amy_03,

Did you like this boy before or after he started seeing your BFF? Cuz here's the deal - it's sketchy if you wanna hook up with her ex. Actually, it's always sketchy where a friend and a boy are involved in the same problem. Talk to your girl. If they're done, some time has passed and she's cool with the idea of her ex and you together, then you've got the green light. But don't be surprised if she can't deal. It's her right. Remember, boys will come and go, but you will only have a few really good friends in life. So value her over him.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.


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    arleenramos43

    arleenramos43 wrote:

    Do wat u think wat right but sometime wat u think is righ is going to get u no where
    commented: Sat Feb 25, 2012

    HeyTay_2043690
    just follow your heart screw your friend cuz if they r done then she shouldnt care and ...
    commented: Sat Feb 25, 2012

    LiiLMizzNicki

    LiiLMizzNicki wrote:

    wow okay
    commented: Wed Jul 06, 2011

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    InternetOwl
    What part of it are you scared of? Is it eating in public and around other people, or just eating in general?  What it might be, if it's eating in public you don't like, is social anxiety, or social phobia. You should ask your doctor to check, because if it is, they can offer you ways to help. For instance, they might recommend therapists or group sessions to help ease your fear.  Even if it's just a phobia or, in unlikelier circumstances, an eating disorder, you should still go to your doctor or a therapist so you can try to overcome it. Try doing things that calm you down before these situations as well, like exercise, reading or listening to music (I'm not sure what relaxes you but sometimes these help). Also, you should try to slowly get used to the situations. So don't force yourself to eat straight away when you're out, but slowly start doing so whenever your comfortable with doing so. Unlike your mum wants, you can't just "stop" being scared because that's not how it works.  But right now, please don't force yourself into any of these situations. It's not good for your mental health to be forced to face a phobia of yours often. 
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    ElfyKathy
    Dear Dish-It, Within the last few years I have felt a bit sick and shaky when we go out to eat. It's not so bad when it's a carvery lunch or something at a pub, but settling down for a chocolate brownie and a milkshake shakes me up. Don't get me wrong, I love going out with Mum, but it's just sitting down and taking a bite. I want to chuck it in the bin. I love eating brownies and stuff at home and I'm pretty healthy. But I refuse to go to the town before lunch in fear. Mum told me I got to stop this or I'm going to develop a terrible phobia.  Please help! ElfyKathy, worried
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    NianiNaturallyNerdy3
    She isn't jealous she is just dissappointed that you chose to get lessons when she did to get better . She had to get better to catch up to you so you can enjoyher as your best friend. Then you went ahead and got lessons as if you needed them. She is just upset that you showed off a talent that she didn't have. And she tried to get better to impress you but you got better as well. Which kept her at the stage she will always be at my best friend sings way betyer than me but I try. 
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    NianiNaturallyNerdy3
    It may be hard but break it down to them we aren't friends but we can be associates. It may leave them a bit dissappointed but tell them we aren't in the same category to be as close as friends. 
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