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Dear Dish-It, My Sister and I Always End Up Fighting

Dear Dish-It,

My sister and I are exactly 10 years apart. She's 25 and I'm 15. She's just getting out of a terrible divorce and has a baby that's five months old. My mom says my sister and I are jealous of each other, but no matter what, we end up fighting. I can't stand to be around her. I try to be nice because she is going through bad times, but it's over now and I want to move on. I was happy being the only kid at home and now, two more people live in my house. I don't like it! I'm a private person and she's always in my room borrowing clothes. My mom says that our fighting is driving her and my father insane. I don't want to go to the point and say this, but I don't love her. She's always been mean to me and I've never forgiven her for putting my family through a ton of chaos when I was little. I just wanted to know if there was a way that I could make her leave me alone - or tell me why I feel this way about her?
Batman


Dear Batman,

Are you sitting down? I've got some words of wisdom for you, but you might not like them, so brace yourself...the house you live in is your home, but the house itself is not ‘yours’. It belongs to your parents and, because they love you guys, they choose to let you, and your sister and grandchild, live in it with them. Nice, huh?


You said you really like being the only kid in the house. Well, guess what? Your sister did, too, before you came along. And because she see's how great you've got it, she remembers those 'good ol' days', and the feelings come back, just like it was yesterday.


And, are you still sitting down? Your mom's right about the jealousy stuff.


Sounds like a chat’s needed. NOT a fight!


So, ya got a burnin' question? Need some love direction? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex, how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com. But remember, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your "username," ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one will ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters every day, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble! Oh! And if ya got words of wisdom you wanna share, we'll dish 'em up, too.


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