Dear Dish-It, My Sister and I Always End Up Fighting
My sister and I are exactly 10 years apart. She's 25 and I'm 15. She's just getting out of a terrible divorce and has a baby that's five months old. My mom says my sister and I are jealous of each other, but no matter what, we end up fighting. I can't stand to be around her. I try to be nice because she is going through bad times, but it's over now and I want to move on. I was happy being the only kid at home and now, two more people live in my house. I don't like it! I'm a private person and she's always in my room borrowing clothes. My mom says that our fighting is driving her and my father insane. I don't want to go to the point and say this, but I don't love her. She's always been mean to me and I've never forgiven her for putting my family through a ton of chaos when I was little. I just wanted to know if there was a way that I could make her leave me alone - or tell me why I feel this way about her?
Are you sitting down? I've got some words of wisdom for you, but you might not like them, so brace yourself...the house you live in is your home, but the house itself is not ‘yours’. It belongs to your parents and, because they love you guys, they choose to let you, and your sister and grandchild, live in it with them. Nice, huh?
You said you really like being the only kid in the house. Well, guess what? Your sister did, too, before you came along. And because she see's how great you've got it, she remembers those 'good ol' days', and the feelings come back, just like it was yesterday.
And, are you still sitting down? Your mom's right about the jealousy stuff.
Sounds like a chat’s needed. NOT a fight!
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