Dear Dish-It, I Just Can't Get This One Boy Out Of My Mind

Dear Dish-It,

I just can't get this one boy out of my mind! I try to forget about him, but I can't! We are like [KWLINK 15198]BFFs. I mean, I don't know if he'd like a dorky, geeky, animal-fanatic girl like me. But, I've written two songs about him, and a poem! I'm already working on a third song. I really want to tell him, but I'm scared. I've tried flirting … but he couldn't tell [KWLINK 16192]flirting to save his life. And he's a year older than me. He's smart, sweet, nice, and he's not a babbling idiot (like some guys … and they say girls are complicated!). And I keep on picturing his head and I get knots in my tummy. And the whole song thing, with most crushes I only write one song or less. He inspires me, and I try to deny it. But I can't. And we have so much in common. What do I do?


Dear true2myself,

It’s really nice that you’ve found a source of inspiration in this boy. If crushing on him from afar gets your creative juices flowing, then I’d say that’s a good thing – for you. However, I must warn you, true2myself, he may not see it the same way.

You see, guys, like girls, ARE complicated. If you went up to your friend and professed your undying love to him, and showed him all your poems that were inspired by him and serenaded him with the songs that you wrote for him, he will, most likely, feel overwhelmed – if not a bit scared.

I’m not saying you should try to be anything other than yourself or try and hide your true feelings about anyone or anything, but I do think when it comes to matters of the heart one must advance with some degree of caution.

My advice to you is to watch for signs of returned interest from the object of your desire. Before you profess your undying love to him (which could scare him off), it would be best if you had some idea that he felt the same way about you. Otherwise, telling him you like him could end in some heartbreak.

When it comes to matters of the heart, my best advice is to lay low, watch and wait for things to unfold naturally. If you try and push or make something happen, it could backfire in your face and you could end up losing a friend. In the meantime, take comfort in the fact that you are capable of admiring someone so much – it means you have a huge capacity for love, which is going to be a big help in your life! Continue writing your poems and songs – it just may not be the time to share them with the source of their inspiration just yet.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.

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