Dear Dish-It: He Won't Leave Me Alone
I don’t know what to do! This guy in my class says I’m sexy, but he has a girlfriend. Still he won’t stop annoying me in class about it. I’m going crazy! I don’t want to tell my parents and I don’t want to go to the office at school, either. Please help!
It sounds like you don’t really like the attention you’re getting from this particular admirer. It’s not nice of him to tease you (even if he’s complimenting you) or flirt with you, especially since he has a girlfriend.
There are a few things you could try doing to get him to stop bothering you. The first is to completely and totally ignore it. Not only does that mean not paying attention when he makes a comment to you, but also making sure you don’t react to anything he does at all. Don’t do anything, don’t say anything – try to even not think about it or let it affect your mood at all. Once he figures out he’s not going to get any reaction from you whatsoever, my guess is he’ll lose interest and stop.
The second option is to talk to him about it. I’m not sure whether or not this guy is a reasonable person, but maybe if you calmly (don’t get mad – it’ll only provoke him and probably make things worse) tell him how his actions and words make you feel, he’ll stop.
The last thing you can do is tell an adult at school about the problem. You could let your teacher know what’s happening, and tell him or her that you don’t like being harassed by this guy. I know you say you don’t want to go to the office, but that would be another solution for the situation. The principal or a school counselor could probably give you some advice as to what you can to make this guy stop.
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