Dear Dish-It: He Won't Leave Me Alone

Dear Dish-It,

I don’t know what to do! This guy in my class says I’m sexy, but he has a girlfriend. Still he won’t stop annoying me in class about it. I’m going crazy! I don’t want to tell my parents and I don’t want to go to the office at school, either. Please help!


Dear TSD,

It sounds like you don’t really like the attention you’re getting from this particular admirer. It’s not nice of him to tease you (even if he’s complimenting you) or flirt with you, especially since he has a girlfriend.

There are a few things you could try doing to get him to stop bothering you. The first is to completely and totally ignore it. Not only does that mean not paying attention when he makes a comment to you, but also making sure you don’t react to anything he does at all. Don’t do anything, don’t say anything – try to even not think about it or let it affect your mood at all. Once he figures out he’s not going to get any reaction from you whatsoever, my guess is he’ll lose interest and stop.

The second option is to talk to him about it. I’m not sure whether or not this guy is a reasonable person, but maybe if you calmly (don’t get mad – it’ll only provoke him and probably make things worse) tell him how his actions and words make you feel, he’ll stop.

The last thing you can do is tell an adult at school about the problem. You could let your teacher know what’s happening, and tell him or her that you don’t like being harassed by this guy. I know you say you don’t want to go to the office, but that would be another solution for the situation. The principal or a school counselor could probably give you some advice as to what you can to make this guy stop.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.

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