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Dear Dish-It: I Get Homesick

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Dear Dish-It,

My friend Megan is having a sleepover on Monday night and I get homesick. But, I really don't want to go home cuz I'll be embarrassed. My friends are all cool and they don't get homesick. Plus, it's at my friend's dad's house so I have no idea what to do. If it was at her mom's, then I might be able to stay the night cuz it's only two houses down. I like my friend and I don't want to hurt her feelings, so what do I do? Please help!
skinimini


Dear skinimini,

Feeling homesick (even though you're having a blast with your friends) is a perfectly natural thing. Tons of people just feel more comfy sleeping in their own bed, with their family down the hall. If you're planning on going to the sleepover just so you don't hurt your friend's feelings then you should probably just come clean. Explain to her that you just aren't up for a sleepover right now, but maybe next time. If you are genuinely eager to dish the dirt at this slumber-fest - why not arrange something with your mom (or sister) where you can give her a call up until a certain time if you want to come home. You can even let your friend know before going that you might just come over for a bit to hang out. I'm sure she'd rather have you come over for some movie watching, then not at all. Good Luck!


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    Latinlover00

    Latinlover00 wrote:

    My house is like a library its extremely quite so idk if I like staying home or getting...
    commented: Sat Oct 12, 2013

    morgan :) o.o

    morgan :) o.o wrote:

    i like being away from home :D
    commented: Fri Oct 11, 2013

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    What's not good about being away from friends and family /:
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    What part of it are you scared of? Is it eating in public and around other people, or just eating in general?  What it might be, if it's eating in public you don't like, is social anxiety, or social phobia. You should ask your doctor to check, because if it is, they can offer you ways to help. For instance, they might recommend therapists or group sessions to help ease your fear.  Even if it's just a phobia or, in unlikelier circumstances, an eating disorder, you should still go to your doctor or a therapist so you can try to overcome it. Try doing things that calm you down before these situations as well, like exercise, reading or listening to music (I'm not sure what relaxes you but sometimes these help). Also, you should try to slowly get used to the situations. So don't force yourself to eat straight away when you're out, but slowly start doing so whenever your comfortable with doing so. Unlike your mum wants, you can't just "stop" being scared because that's not how it works.  But right now, please don't force yourself into any of these situations. It's not good for your mental health to be forced to face a phobia of yours often. 
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    She isn't jealous she is just dissappointed that you chose to get lessons when she did to get better . She had to get better to catch up to you so you can enjoyher as your best friend. Then you went ahead and got lessons as if you needed them. She is just upset that you showed off a talent that she didn't have. And she tried to get better to impress you but you got better as well. Which kept her at the stage she will always be at my best friend sings way betyer than me but I try. 
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