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Dear Dish-It: I Get Homesick

Dear Dish-It,

My friend Megan is having a sleepover on Monday night and I get homesick. But, I really don't want to go home cuz I'll be embarrassed. My friends are all cool and they don't get homesick. Plus, it's at my friend's dad's house so I have no idea what to do. If it was at her mom's, then I might be able to stay the night cuz it's only two houses down. I like my friend and I don't want to hurt her feelings, so what do I do? Please help!
skinimini


Dear skinimini,

Feeling homesick (even though you're having a blast with your friends) is a perfectly natural thing. Tons of people just feel more comfy sleeping in their own bed, with their family down the hall. If you're planning on going to the sleepover just so you don't hurt your friend's feelings then you should probably just come clean. Explain to her that you just aren't up for a sleepover right now, but maybe next time. If you are genuinely eager to dish the dirt at this slumber-fest - why not arrange something with your mom (or sister) where you can give her a call up until a certain time if you want to come home. You can even let your friend know before going that you might just come over for a bit to hang out. I'm sure she'd rather have you come over for some movie watching, then not at all. Good Luck!


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