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Dear Dish-It, Everything Is So Hectic!

Dear Dish-It,

In the spring I found out my grandpa (mom's dad) had lung cancer. A couple months later my grandma (dad's mom) had a heart attack. She's already had breast cancer. Now, just yesterday, my grandma (mom's mom) had a stroke and then she had another one at 6:30 this morning! My step-dad's aunt died a few weeks ago and that just makes things worse! I cry myself to sleep at night and can't concentrate at school! Everything is so hectic in my life! I'm in high school and starting to notice boys more, boys are noticing me and now with all this on top of it - plus homework - I'm just ready to die! Please help me!
beaster1390


Dear beaster1390,

You really have been hit with a bad string of luck, and it's easy to see why you've been struggling with your day-to-day life. It's hard to deal with such emotional situations at the best of times but to be dealing with so many trying situations at once has got to be taking a toll on your mental health. Have you sat down with someone at school to talk to them about what's going on. If you talk to a counselor or your individual teachers, they should be able to lighten your work load and free you up to deal with family issues. It's also a good idea to talk things through with the 'rents. This has got to be a tough time for them too, but I guarantee they'll have some words of encouragement for you. Also, if you can manage to do it, take a little bit of time for yourself each day. Whether it's reading a bit of a good book, taking a soak in the tub or just chillin' in your room with some mellow tunes - it will help to ease your mind and hopefully calm you down enough to face the next day of drama! Although it seems like this is never going to end, things will get better, I am sure of it.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    Abbergrl
    Haha, thank you. I don't want to date, it's just that these stupid crushes :/
    reply about 4 hours
    SimplyAda
    I can relate very much.  :e  It happens a lot. But here's one thing, try not to date. At my middle school, everyone literally dates everybody and relationships never last. Part of the reason is that most of us aren't in that mature phase yet (mostly boys). As the days go by, we're growing. But, it's completely normal to have a crush on a boy. :) :thumbsup
    reply about 4 hours
    SmartSunnyShadow
    Sorry for the late reply, but I'd love to help. If they don't want to talk to you, or don't like your jokes, don't talk to them. They probably don't like you, so you shouldn't try to make it better. You should hang out with your other friends. They'll make you feel better about yourself. If you don't have any friends in your class...that's the problem.  That's exactly what happened to me last year. But I started hanging out with the guys more, and they were really nice and had a lot in common with me. Maybe the guys will be nice to you and accept you. I hope I helped you. :)   
    reply about 11 hours
    SmartSunnyShadow
    Aw, that's sad. I know this is a late review, but I would love to help you make new friends. There are kids that do nasty things at every single school, trust me, you'll never find a perfect school, and if people are reporting this form of bullying, teachers are probably supervising children more, so don't worry about that. :) Now making new friends, ahh, that's very difficult. I can be shy myself, but it honestly depends. What I usually do is observe different groups of people, and see how they interact with each other. If the person seems nice, wait until the time is appropriate and greet them. A friendly "Hi, I'm new, could you maybe show me around, or help me with this, or tell me about this school?" That will start off a conversation. :)  As well, I tend to make jokes, or go to my funny side. I usually make way more friends that way. You could try to make slight jokes, and gradually make them less implied and more clear as you joke around.  If there are any other new kids, or shy kids, definitely talk to them. If there are any kids that look lonely, or sad, maybe take some time to approach them. If they look like the want to be left alone, leave them alone. If you're not sure, it's best if you see someone else interact with them first.  If you're bisexual, that doesn't really matter, and don't bring that fact up in a conversation. That's kind of personal, and when you get a little closer, you can say that. It's not really important, and necessary for people to know that. And it's personal too. So don't bring that up unless you really want to.  I hope i helped you! Sorry for the late advice. >_< 
    reply about 11 hours
    SmartSunnyShadow
    Several people are having the same problem as you. Whether they're the same gender or not, many people crush on some of their closest friends. So don't feel alone, remember that. I know this is some late advice, but I hope so far things are going good. Many people are feeling the urge of confessing like you. Yes, I think you should confess to her clearly, but when the time is right. She may not like you, but if you really really like her, you should absolutely confess to her. But be aware that confessing to one of your friends can ruin your friendship. You have to be cautious, confess when the time is right. 5 months may be long for you, but honestly, that's a short-term crush. Don't rush your confession, and don't give up unless you think you should. Getting over someone can be incredibly hard too, but you're either going to get over her, or confess to her. When the time is right, confess. When the time never seems to come, I'm sorry, but unfortunately, I think it's best if you get over her, because you have to be 100% sure before you confess to someone. You're risking your friendship to, so think if it's really worth it.  I hope I helped you. :) 
    reply about 11 hours