Dear Dish-It, Everything Is So Hectic!

Dear Dish-It,

In the spring I found out my grandpa (mom's dad) had lung cancer. A couple months later my grandma (dad's mom) had a heart attack. She's already had breast cancer. Now, just yesterday, my grandma (mom's mom) had a stroke and then she had another one at 6:30 this morning! My step-dad's aunt died a few weeks ago and that just makes things worse! I cry myself to sleep at night and can't concentrate at school! Everything is so hectic in my life! I'm in high school and starting to notice boys more, boys are noticing me and now with all this on top of it - plus homework - I'm just ready to die! Please help me!

Dear beaster1390,

You really have been hit with a bad string of luck, and it's easy to see why you've been struggling with your day-to-day life. It's hard to deal with such emotional situations at the best of times but to be dealing with so many trying situations at once has got to be taking a toll on your mental health. Have you sat down with someone at school to talk to them about what's going on. If you talk to a counselor or your individual teachers, they should be able to lighten your work load and free you up to deal with family issues. It's also a good idea to talk things through with the 'rents. This has got to be a tough time for them too, but I guarantee they'll have some words of encouragement for you. Also, if you can manage to do it, take a little bit of time for yourself each day. Whether it's reading a bit of a good book, taking a soak in the tub or just chillin' in your room with some mellow tunes - it will help to ease your mind and hopefully calm you down enough to face the next day of drama! Although it seems like this is never going to end, things will get better, I am sure of it.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .

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