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Dear Dish-It, It's My Only Reason to Live


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Dear Dish-It,

I hate everything. I am a 16 year-old male who has been depressed for 3-4 years. I find nothing left to live for, except women. I find them truly interesting and attractive. But I do not expose myself because I hate myself so much. Expressing love with a woman seems like "the reason of life" in my opinion. I even know someone who I was going to ask out. But every time I go out with someone, I get nervous and get the what-ifs. What if I am a bad kisser, what if I don't meet expectations, etcetera? Any advice to change/help this?
dirty1


Dear dirty1,

Dude, you gotta keep your chin up! Just cuz you can't seem to connect with the ladies right now does not mean you will never connect with 'em. Very few 16 year-old guys have the dating thing figured out - in fact, very few peeps in general have the dating thing figured out. Trust me, you will find that one true love eventually but in the mean time, think of all the other things you can do to become the well-rounded individual that girls are looking for. Read interesting novels, go to the movies, join a sport or other extra-curricular activity. While being in love is a wonderful thing, it's not the only thing that you should focus on. Girls aren't looking for guys to pine for them like fools or dote on them constantly - they want a cool guy who has interesting things to say and who they connect with. Focus on figuring out exactly who you are and when you've figure that out, the ladies will be lining up at your door. And remember, you have a long dating life ahead, so there's no need to rush these things!


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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