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Dear Dish-It, It Goes Against All My Beliefs

Advice for teens about love, relationships, dating and pressures of sex.
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Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

I've been thinking about sex but it stands against everything I believe in, especially religion-wise. My boyfriend has been really stressing me about this - he says if I really love him I'll do it. But I have a bad feeling about it. Should I dump him and find someone who isn't so obsessed with sex, or should I just give him what he wants? I mean everyone's doing it, so why shouldn't I be one of them? But my faith towards God is telling me no. What should I do?
SCARED


Dear SCARED,

I can tell from your letter that you already know the answer to your question. But, you're trying to talk yourself into thinking it's okay to give into your BF's requests in order to hold onto him. Here's my advice: Don't. Any guy who uses the line, "You'd do it if you loved me" is not worth staying with. Your guy is manipulative and clearly has no respect for you or your beliefs. And no, everyone is NOT doing it. There are a ton of peeps out there who aren't having sex for various reasons - be it because of religious beliefs or something else, waiting is a smart move. Stick to your faith and kick this boy to the curb - he's only going to bring you down.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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zee120
zee120 posted in Friends:
you are so true u just lifted up my spirit(;
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ginnygator
Ask Joey if he will talk to William for you, to find out what is going on. Say to him "Hey, can you ask William if I went to far with him because if I did tell him that I am sorry, I did not mean to?" That is all of the advice that I can give you for now talk to me if you need anything else.
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kidwizkool123
kidwizkool123 posted in Friends:
ya but that isn't quite what I am saying I was just saying that all u really have to do is just be your self to make friends but if you aren't being yourself then they will be thinking that u r someone else and just get the wrong idea!! anyway thx for posting!!
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InternetOwl
InternetOwl posted in Friends:
Yep, being yourself is very important especially with friends. Though remember you're going to have different attitudes towards different people, and that doesn't mean you're fake. 
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ginnygator
You should speak to them, say " I heard you when you two had your fight  and I heard every word, I need to know what is happening between you guys". That will let them no that you are worried about them. They will probably say " That is none of your concern" or "We are discussing it". You should then say "I am part of this family to and I deserve to know" or "You two need to talk about it right here then, because I need to know what is happening right now". That is the best advice that I can give you.
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