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Dear Dish-It, It Goes Against All My Beliefs

Advice for teens about love, relationships, dating and pressures of sex.
Relationship Advice For Teens

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

I've been thinking about sex but it stands against everything I believe in, especially religion-wise. My boyfriend has been really stressing me about this - he says if I really love him I'll do it. But I have a bad feeling about it. Should I dump him and find someone who isn't so obsessed with sex, or should I just give him what he wants? I mean everyone's doing it, so why shouldn't I be one of them? But my faith towards God is telling me no. What should I do?
SCARED


Dear SCARED,

I can tell from your letter that you already know the answer to your question. But, you're trying to talk yourself into thinking it's okay to give into your BF's requests in order to hold onto him. Here's my advice: Don't. Any guy who uses the line, "You'd do it if you loved me" is not worth staying with. Your guy is manipulative and clearly has no respect for you or your beliefs. And no, everyone is NOT doing it. There are a ton of peeps out there who aren't having sex for various reasons - be it because of religious beliefs or something else, waiting is a smart move. Stick to your faith and kick this boy to the curb - he's only going to bring you down.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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