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Dear Dish-it: Are We Going Out?

Dear Dish-it,


I asked someone to go out with me and I don't know if we are cause he's giving all these weird clues. It's really annoying. Why can't he give me a straightforward answer?


NSN678


Dear NSN678,


Guys sometimes give off the kinds of signals that can be confusing. One minute it seems like they really like you, the next it seems like they’re totally not interested! But they do have signals that you can look for that pretty much guarantee they’re crushing right back at you!


Alone Time

Some key things to look for if he’s crushing on you are if he wants to hang out with just you all the time, without the rest of your friends. If he wants to be able to have personal conversations with you that you just can’t have when there’s too many people around, that’s a sure sign he’s got feelings for ya!


It’s On Him

Another tell-tale symptom of crushing is if he tries to pay for you whenever you are out or grabbing something to eat. Usually friends like to split the cost, while a guy who likes you wants to show he’s helpful by dishing out the cash.


Just Ask

When it’s starting to look obvious, the absolute best way to figure it out is to just ask him. I know it feels really awkward, so I would wait until the signals are loud and clear. Be confident! Bringing it up at this point will make it less awkward for both of you. And next time, do it yourself – getting someone else, like your cuz, involved is a surefire way to get all the signals mixed up and confused!


Sound Off

What are some other signals guys send when they like a girl? Have your say by leaving a comment below this story!


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-Gwen9-- posted in Friends:
"jordand08" wrote:Thank you.You're welcome. :)
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donteatcarrots
talk to the person you're closest too. yes, you said you don't get close with people, but there's probably one person who you speak to more often than others- talk to that person.
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donteatcarrots
donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
Don't worry too much- it's only your first relationship- but I'd sit down with him at one point, and discuss what makes you uncomfortable, eg; if you know what I mean...
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donteatcarrots
donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
Probably sound a little stereotypical, but the majority of boys don't really act like that... Ask him :p
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kittenkid
First: WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T KILL YOUSELF! When you get past this you'll be glad. Well, this is just my opinion, but I think you should first find someone, anyone, even if you don't trust them, if there're your parents talk to them about it. I bet a bunch of people have already told you this but there're right. Before you walk up to them, write down what you're going to say and then think of a few questions they might ask and write down the answers to them. Remember to tell them that it might take you a minute to think of an answer. Before you answer, think of the exact words you will say  before you say anything, and think in your mind about it. Think about wether it is a lie or not before you say it. If it gets out of you mouth before you realize it is a lie, don't be afraid to say so and just say the truth. Also, just try to find something you like to do that will take your mind off everything. If you really can't think of anything, try just practicing saying your feelings to yourself, or a pillow or something.  Hope this helps!
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