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Dear Dish-It: Bogus BF

Dear Dish-it,


I have a boyfriend, but he totally pretends we aren't dating! He asks me not to lean against him and I think he's embarrassed of me. All my friends tease us but it doesn't seem to bother him. What do I do?


Unhappy Girlfriend



Dear Unhappy Girlfriend,

Uh-oh. Your situation sounds sad. When you're in a good relationship with someone who cares about you, then there's no reason to hide it from the world! I wonder why your boyfriend pretends that the two of you aren't dating? Hmm...there could be several reasons, which we can definitely talk about, but, at the end of the day, I think it's pretty unfair and sorta hurtful that he acts like you're not his girlfriend...

Easily Embarrassed

You mentioned that you think your BF is embarrassed of you...well, I think you may be onto something, but I sure hope it's not YOU that he's embarrassed by. If it is, then I don't think he's a very nice guy and you probably should lose him and move on to someone who isn't embarrassed to be with you. But maybe it's more that he just gets embarrassed really easily? If he's the kind of guy who gets really red in the face when he's the center of attention, or if his friends make a lot of fun of him because he has a girlfriend, then he could just be pretending he's not in a relationship with you because he wants to avoid being teased by others.

Is He Immature?

Are you sure your boyfriend is mature enough to have a girlfriend? If he's still sort of immature, he might not be ready. And, if that's the case, what seems to you like him pretending he doesn't know you or that he's embarrassed by you may actually be a signal that he needs some more time to grow up or feel ready to be in a relationship with a girl.

Time to Talk

The bottom line is, you'll never really know why your boyfriend is acting the way he is until you ask him. I think it's definitely important to sit down with him (in private), and ask him why he acts like he doesn't know you or why he gets so embarrassed about your relationship. If his reasons are legit, then try to understand where he's coming from and see if you can work it out. But if he denies doing it and it seems like, after you talk, nothing is going to change, then it may be time for you to move on. If you really feel like you're an "Unhappy Girlfriend," then it's up to you to change that!

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BeautifulBelle
I am so sorry for all the frustration and anger you're feeling, love. Have you tried talking to your mom? I can say I know a little of what you're feeling. Have you tried writing in a journal or talking to a friend? Just be there for your cousin if you can. That is not okay, just abandoning your family without a reason. Hang in there.
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american_brit
I'll say it again, it's not weird. I know plenty of guys who can't do those things and plenty of girls who can.  She's your sister. Your YOUNGER SISTER. Therefore, she must be inferior to you when it comes to this kind of thing, right? Nope. That's far from the truth. And you're not the only guy who experiences this kind of thing.
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Heyyyyy_
Heyyyyy_ posted in Family Issues:
its not weird, she juss wants to look good.  if u think tht its weird or ur envious of ur sisters look, then u should give it a try.
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sweettoothfan
"9bella" wrote:its not weird my yo more yunger sister can run far more pacers than me my younger sis can beat me in arm wrestling and can do push ups and chin ups while i can't. you gotta admit that makes it weird. i want to think its fine but its not. 
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momika45
momika45 posted in Family Issues:
I feel so unwanted.. My father is gone so I only have my mom and other family members.. Plus her stupid boyfriend. My mom has compleat lay disconnected from my family bc they all think her bf is bad for her. They were just looking out for her! So now I only have my siblings, friends, mother, and her STUPID BOYFRIEND!! And to top it all off, my uncle decided he no longer wanted a family, so he just packed up, and left. Just like that. He left my 7 yr old cousin, HIS DAUGHTER, at the age of SEVEN! For no absolute reason! What do I do now..?
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