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Dear Dish-It: My BFF’s Boyfriend is Flirting With Me

Dear Dish-It,

I was chatting with my best friend’s boyfriend and it seemed like he was flirting with me. He asked for my cell phone number and was talking to me like he’d known me forever! I don’t want him to hate me if I tell my friend, and I don’t want her to hate me if he breaks up with her for me! Am I being too paranoid?

Weirded Out

Dear WO,

I’m really not sure whether your BFF’s boyfriend was flirting with you or not. He’s allowed to be friendly, and it’s OK for you two to chat and even be friends… but him asking for your cell phone number may be a red flag. Here’s my advice…

Do What’s Right

You didn’t say if you gave him your number or not, but I hope you didn’t! Remember, you are never responsible for the actions of others, but you are most definitely accountable for your own! Giving your BFF’s boyfriend your phone number would be a real no-no, so hopefully you didn’t do it!

Tell Your BFF

Letting your BFF know that you and her boyfriend were talking and got along great is a good way to keep everything out in the open and to make sure that you aren’t keeping any potentially important details from her. If she knows that you and her boyfriend get along really well, she might be totally OK with you guys being friends. And if she suspects that he is being a bit of a flirt, you’ll have already done your part by remaining 100% honest with her and not keeping any secrets!

Let Him Know

If, in the future, you get an even stronger feeling that you are actually being flirted with, let him know that you don’t think it’s OK for him to do that to your best friend. Remember, your loyalty lies with her, and she’s (hopefully) gonna be a part of your life a lot longer than he may be! So don’t allow anything that makes you feel uncomfortable to happen. Say “No thanks!” and walk away!

Have Your Say

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tastycupcakes
tastycupcakes posted in Friends:
Well, my advice is to talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel about the matter. If she does not want to stop bullying the other girls that you are friends with, break off the friendship. I hope this helped with your problem!
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draaculagirl
draaculagirl posted in Friends:
ok so i have this friend but she is mean to other girls and she does not like it if i am friends with other girls. i have been friends with her since third grade. and every one has some goodness in them. i just don't know what to do please help
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InternetOwl
InternetOwl posted in Friends:
Well, I hope you're not friends with her whilst she's doing that.  You should confront her about it, tell her how's she's been acting and how you hate it. If it comes down to it tell an adult or someone you trust and see if they can help you. If it never gets better you should try moving on and ignoring her. It's not the best advice, but there's not a lot you can do.
reply about 8 hours
InternetOwl
InternetOwl posted in Style:
Tbh, if she says they're too short or too tight, she's probably not going to change her mind on that. However, there are tonnes of clothes out there that are really cute without being tight or short. Like jumpers, for one. If you really do need new clothes, you should try and persuade her by telling her about your old clothes, like if they don't fit any more or if you don't have many left. Start small though, just by asking for new clothes that aren't too tight (there are loads of T-shirts and stuff out there) and slowly ask for bigger things like tighter clothes or jewellery.  Though some parents just don't like their kids wearing things like make-up or clothes that are too short, because they often feel the kid is too young to be wearing things that show a lot (which some kids often are). And, I don't think you can change their minds about that, as cool as it would seem. 
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draaculagirl
draaculagirl posted in Friends:
ok and tell her that my dance is beatiful. that i am beutiful. and if you don't like it than you can just leave.  if she was truely your bff she would not bully you like this
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