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Dear Dish-It: My BFF’s Boyfriend is Flirting With Me

Dear Dish-It,

I was chatting with my best friend’s boyfriend and it seemed like he was flirting with me. He asked for my cell phone number and was talking to me like he’d known me forever! I don’t want him to hate me if I tell my friend, and I don’t want her to hate me if he breaks up with her for me! Am I being too paranoid?

Weirded Out

Dear WO,

I’m really not sure whether your BFF’s boyfriend was flirting with you or not. He’s allowed to be friendly, and it’s OK for you two to chat and even be friends… but him asking for your cell phone number may be a red flag. Here’s my advice…

Do What’s Right

You didn’t say if you gave him your number or not, but I hope you didn’t! Remember, you are never responsible for the actions of others, but you are most definitely accountable for your own! Giving your BFF’s boyfriend your phone number would be a real no-no, so hopefully you didn’t do it!

Tell Your BFF

Letting your BFF know that you and her boyfriend were talking and got along great is a good way to keep everything out in the open and to make sure that you aren’t keeping any potentially important details from her. If she knows that you and her boyfriend get along really well, she might be totally OK with you guys being friends. And if she suspects that he is being a bit of a flirt, you’ll have already done your part by remaining 100% honest with her and not keeping any secrets!

Let Him Know

If, in the future, you get an even stronger feeling that you are actually being flirted with, let him know that you don’t think it’s OK for him to do that to your best friend. Remember, your loyalty lies with her, and she’s (hopefully) gonna be a part of your life a lot longer than he may be! So don’t allow anything that makes you feel uncomfortable to happen. Say “No thanks!” and walk away!

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