Kw-logo-smaller

Dear Dish-It: My Best Friend's An Attention Seeker

Nov 23, 2012

Dear Dish-It,

Ever since boys started noticing my best friend, she’s been such an attention seeker. She tries to act overly confident and wears revealing clothes. One minute she’ll be my friend, and as soon as there are boys around, it’s like I don’t even exist. I try to talk to her and she only pretends to listen while looking over my head at the boys behind me. It’s hard to be around her because she’s always trying to compete with me. What should I do?

Overlooked

Dear Overlooked,

As much as your best friend tries to appear confident, the act of attention seeking usually stems from a lack of confidence. If she was truly confident in who she is, your best friend wouldn’t need to act differently when boys are around or wear revealing clothes just to get them to notice her.

Tell Her How You Feel

If you haven’t already, you should try talking to your friend about your feelings. Don’t accuse her of anything; that will only make her defensive and probably start a fight. Just tell her that you feel like she ignores you when there are boys around, and that it makes you upset.

Friendship is More Important

The only way for your friendship to truly work is for you to support each other. That means letting each other have your moment instead of competing for the spotlight. You don’t want to wind up as frenemies. You’ll have a long lasting friendship if you both understand that your relationship is more important than boys.

Have Your Say

Do you have any advice for Overlooked? Leave your comment below!

 

97 Comments

latest videos

F1017338011187

What's Sure to Get His Attention?

  • Smile and giggle at all his jokes.
  • The bend-and-snap technique from Legally Blonde.
  • Follow him home from school every day - even though you live on the other side of town.
  • What's with the games? Just ask him out and stop playin' around already!

related stories

Micro_deardishit-jealous-micro
Jealous asks: I don’t like my ex-boyfriend anymore, but when he started dating another girl I fel...
Loner asks: "There is a girl in my class and she is very posh and stuck up! I make a new friend a...
My best friend smokes. She smokes for attention and it is killing me. I'm so lost! ...
My mom's a bit odd when it comes to men. She dates a lot, and has gotten pregnant t...

Dear Dish-It in the forums

hugebear
hugebear posted in Friends:
You doesnt have to wonder too much since your best friends with his sister. Ask your friend to ask him does he like you and takes it slowly and good luck :)
reply about 2 hours
_Monaaa_
_Monaaa_ posted in Friends:
Matty & Ana.
reply about 3 hours
shahgee
shahgee posted in Friends:
my best friends are also on kw ..one is nimra and the other one is meena :) :)
reply about 3 hours
geekynerd
geekynerd posted in Friends:
I have 2 bff's, who aren't on KW. Emi and Viya.
reply about 3 hours
ultragirlygamer
Im homeschooled so I don't get to meet very many people but we have a homeschool group thing and in it was this guy I liked he always was trying to make me laugh and the first time I wore makeup he said something about it. Me and his sister are like best friends and when I told her I liked him she got really excited and said she thought he might like me but im still not sure. But next year they are not going to be attending the group at that was the only place I ever saw them. We might have a sleepover someday but until then all I can do is wonder
reply about 11 hours

play online games