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Dear Dish-It: My Best Friend's An Attention Seeker

Nov 23, 2012

Dear Dish-It,

Ever since boys started noticing my best friend, she’s been such an attention seeker. She tries to act overly confident and wears revealing clothes. One minute she’ll be my friend, and as soon as there are boys around, it’s like I don’t even exist. I try to talk to her and she only pretends to listen while looking over my head at the boys behind me. It’s hard to be around her because she’s always trying to compete with me. What should I do?

Overlooked

Dear Overlooked,

As much as your best friend tries to appear confident, the act of attention seeking usually stems from a lack of confidence. If she was truly confident in who she is, your best friend wouldn’t need to act differently when boys are around or wear revealing clothes just to get them to notice her.

Tell Her How You Feel

If you haven’t already, you should try talking to your friend about your feelings. Don’t accuse her of anything; that will only make her defensive and probably start a fight. Just tell her that you feel like she ignores you when there are boys around, and that it makes you upset.

Friendship is More Important

The only way for your friendship to truly work is for you to support each other. That means letting each other have your moment instead of competing for the spotlight. You don’t want to wind up as frenemies. You’ll have a long lasting friendship if you both understand that your relationship is more important than boys.

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  • What's with the games? Just ask him out and stop playin' around already!

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