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Dear Dish-It: My Best Friend's An Attention Seeker

Nov 23, 2012

Dear Dish-It,

Ever since boys started noticing my best friend, she’s been such an attention seeker. She tries to act overly confident and wears revealing clothes. One minute she’ll be my friend, and as soon as there are boys around, it’s like I don’t even exist. I try to talk to her and she only pretends to listen while looking over my head at the boys behind me. It’s hard to be around her because she’s always trying to compete with me. What should I do?

Overlooked

Dear Overlooked,

As much as your best friend tries to appear confident, the act of attention seeking usually stems from a lack of confidence. If she was truly confident in who she is, your best friend wouldn’t need to act differently when boys are around or wear revealing clothes just to get them to notice her.

Tell Her How You Feel

If you haven’t already, you should try talking to your friend about your feelings. Don’t accuse her of anything; that will only make her defensive and probably start a fight. Just tell her that you feel like she ignores you when there are boys around, and that it makes you upset.

Friendship is More Important

The only way for your friendship to truly work is for you to support each other. That means letting each other have your moment instead of competing for the spotlight. You don’t want to wind up as frenemies. You’ll have a long lasting friendship if you both understand that your relationship is more important than boys.

Have Your Say

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BeautifulBelle
I am so sorry for all the frustration and anger you're feeling, love. Have you tried talking to your mom? I can say I know a little of what you're feeling. Have you tried writing in a journal or talking to a friend? Just be there for your cousin if you can. That is not okay, just abandoning your family without a reason. Hang in there.
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american_brit
I'll say it again, it's not weird. I know plenty of guys who can't do those things and plenty of girls who can.  She's your sister. Your YOUNGER SISTER. Therefore, she must be inferior to you when it comes to this kind of thing, right? Nope. That's far from the truth. And you're not the only guy who experiences this kind of thing.
reply about 7 hours
Heyyyyy_
Heyyyyy_ posted in Family Issues:
its not weird, she juss wants to look good.  if u think tht its weird or ur envious of ur sisters look, then u should give it a try.
reply about 7 hours
sweettoothfan
"9bella" wrote:its not weird my yo more yunger sister can run far more pacers than me my younger sis can beat me in arm wrestling and can do push ups and chin ups while i can't. you gotta admit that makes it weird. i want to think its fine but its not. 
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momika45
momika45 posted in Family Issues:
I feel so unwanted.. My father is gone so I only have my mom and other family members.. Plus her stupid boyfriend. My mom has compleat lay disconnected from my family bc they all think her bf is bad for her. They were just looking out for her! So now I only have my siblings, friends, mother, and her STUPID BOYFRIEND!! And to top it all off, my uncle decided he no longer wanted a family, so he just packed up, and left. Just like that. He left my 7 yr old cousin, HIS DAUGHTER, at the age of SEVEN! For no absolute reason! What do I do now..?
reply about 8 hours

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